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Do I approach DD new boyfriend?

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whatacrapusername2306 · 22/02/2019 22:29

So DD has her first proper boyfriend. They met at college and have been together a few months. He has visited our house, but only with a group of friends together. I have said hello/light chit chat but have kept my distance. Her best friend has told me he is a lovely lad. However, from what I can see it is slightly more on his terms than hers. He decides when they meet up etc. If circumstances happen and he does visit our house on his own, do I have a chat with him and ask what his intentions are? I don’t want to grill the poor boy, but maybe just let him know that I expect my daughter to be treated well. Or do I just let them get on with it! I am new to this teenage relationship thing so any advice would be greatly appreciated Grin

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Nolagerformethanks · 22/02/2019 23:03

Noooo don't talk to him! Even if you did he will always tell you what you want to hear, he would never say 'well it's just casual, I will have a new one on the go next month' would he? Just be the approachable, chilled out and nice parent, they will want to spend time at your house of you are chilled out about the situation and you can keep an eye on him/them then! Win win!

IncrediblySadToo · 22/02/2019 23:11

Are you writing a script for a sitcom/budget comedy film?

...because asking what his intentions are would be perfect for that.

IRL - just no.

Parent your daughter, not someone else’s son.

GinandGingerBeer · 22/02/2019 23:26

You might be new to this teenager OP but I'm pretty sure you've actually been a teenager yourself? Christ alive Grin it's made me laugh, sorry OP Smile

Thatsnotmyotter · 22/02/2019 23:31

Talk to your daughter about setting up boundaries and asserting herself. She’ll be mortified if she finds you lecturing her boyfriend! Presumably if she’s at college she must be over 16?

confuzzzzzled · 22/02/2019 23:33

I think rather than them only meeting when it’s on ‘his terms’ it’s probably more of a case of them meeting up when he’s not occupied with friends etc?? It’s hardly going to be a mega-serious relationship at 16, he doesn’t have to devote his life to her yet.

cushioncuddle · 22/02/2019 23:40

I think it's funny that you think your chat will have any influence on how he treats her. That he will listen to you. That he will tell you what he's really thinking or what he feels for your daughter.

hmwhatsmynameagain · 22/02/2019 23:43

Support your dd to be independent and express and require her needs and wants

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