37 and longing for a child..not sure I'm with Mr Right though

[Desperatetobeamummyonedaysoon]

Ok so, throwing this out there and hoping I dont get too attacked! Im nearly 37 and have a 6 yr old from a previous relationship. I met my current partner 3 yrs ago.. not yet living together but have discussed it. To be honest as much as I want it to "feel right" .. im not sure he is right.. nothing major but living with him would be hard work..hes slightly obsessed with cleanliness, overly house proud and his hobby is saving money and investing! I am house proud and clean etc but not to the extent he is! It sounds mean but I feel a bit bored with him not sure i could live happily ever after with him?! I would never string him along and he knows how i feel.. ive been honest. Im just not sure hes "the one for me" but hes perfect on paper..financially stable and hes desperate for kids! Hes 41 and im nearly 37. Anyway advice please .. what do i do? End it and try and meet "the one" before my biological clock ends (this would be my ideal situation but a risk given my age) or have a baby with him, knowing he wants a baby and would be a fab dad but we may not be together forever? I know the 3rd option is sperm donor but i think id be better off having a baby with him so the baby has a father figure and i have support (not looking to get into debate on right/wrongs of sperm donor and i have nothing against women who choose this route i just think it would be my last resort altho definitely an option i'd consider).

I know in my heart if i dont have another baby I will be heartbroken.. i wish i could pause time and meet mr right but times flying by.. yes we all know someone who had a baby at 41 but i may not be so lucky? Im petrified of being single at 37 and longing for a baby (yes this is selfish but its my reality and honest feelings). I love being a mum and im desperate for another child. Anyone been in this situation? As i say..please be kind as im really stressing about this.

[Butteredghost]

I have never forgiven her for willingly putting us in a shitty situation

I'd hardly call this a shitty situation though. OP isn't rushing in to things with some dodgy guy she barely knows. She is considering having a baby in a long term, stable, happy (enough) relationship. It's not realistic to say no one should have kids if they have any from a previous relationship.

[GetOffTheTableMabel]

How is he with your 6 year old? Is he kind, patient, fair, consistent? Does your child enjoy his company and does he enjoy theirs?
How does he handle the unglamorous bits of parenting?

[PixiKitKat]

You've not lived together so he is able to be as tidy as he wants. He may change a bit when you all live together though. My partner is much tidier than I am but he's relaxed a bit and I've improved a bit so we meet in the middle.

If he wants to save you could maintain sperate money and have a joint one for bills. He may also relax the saving when he has a child? Surely he'll want to take the child out etc

I'd talk through all possibilities and see what you can agree on.