Is this weird ?

[JamesMartinsFloozie]

NC done as it would be obvious who I was talking about and who I was.

A man whose 2nd wife tragically died less than 12 months after they got married is now going out with her sister. 2nd wife died 18 months ago. Thoughts ? Not sure what I think and none of my business. Interested in others pov

Sometimes people can bond through shared grief

Not weird.
Understandable that mutual greif could bring people together. Whether it’s a good foundation for a long standing relationship only time will tell.
Either way it’s a happy thing to come out of a sad event

Totally weird

Wierd

Yuck

Not sure what you're asking tbh.

Different people feel things differently, and as OftenHangry says, can bond through grief.

If he was having a thing with the sister while his wife was still alive that would be a whole different ball game but if they've just got together after 18 months can't see the problem.

Why is being 2nd wife relevant? Also, not really anyone's business

Very weird

What happened to his first wife?

Not weird.

Feeling rather queasy at the thought of shagging my brother in-laws 🤢

Until reasonably recently it was illegal to marry your dead wifes sister.

I can see it would upset people, presumably there are no children involved.

Did the first wife die with undue haste also?

It happens quite often. I do find it weird though. The idea of getting with my BIL in the event of my husband’s death makes me feel a bit ill. But they are very different. BIL is perfectly nice but I couldn’t ever imagine ending up with someone like him. Maybe if he were just like DH it would he different.

@lovingbenidorm group sex isn’t for everyone.

Well some people would have a problem with that but they obviously don't, so up to them I guess and as you say, none of your business.

😂 just wrong tho isn’t it?

Not that unusual.

very weird and makes my flesh crawl a bit.

Weird, yuck.

If they'd been together for a long time, then a relationship with SiL would be weird. Too close.

As they hadn't been together that long, then less surprising, imo.

My elderly mum started visiting her BIL after her sister died, to give him some company.
They kind of fell a bit in love with each other. They were both very old and knew each other very well through shared history. I thought it was sweet. I've no idea what his kids, my cousins thought.

Yes weird

Not weird.

Very weird. But horses for courses!