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To think they could have sat somewhere else

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doris9034 · 22/02/2019 13:05

So I've had some shit work related news this morning, and have taken myself to the pub for lunch for a bit of headspace. Pub is fairly empty - most eating tables are free, so I've sat in a quiet corner to have my sandwich and chill. Now a couple have come in and sat right next to me - literally the man's chair is about 20cm from mine Angry
There are at least 15 other tables - why the fuck do you have to sit on top of me arrrrrgggghhhhh!

OP posts:
IwantedtobeEmmaPeel · 22/02/2019 14:17

Yeah it's weird how people will park right next to you in an almost empty carpark, sit right next to you on an empty beach and sit practically on top of you in an almost empty restaurant. I call it the herd or lemming instinct, some people instinctively look for others of their species to make them feel safe or just follow another human without thought (lemmings). Either way it drives me (and loads of mumsnetters) mad. Just move away from them Op, who cares what they think. Sorry about the bad news from work. Flowers

Mushroomsarehorrible · 22/02/2019 14:22

dottypotter
fgs why not smile or talk to them. Miserable or what

Well that wins the prize for the most useful contribution Confused

Original poster
doris9034 · 22/02/2019 14:25

Thanks all 😊
dottypotter I'm normally very friendly - just not today! Redundancy tends to do that to you.....

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FurrySlipperBoots · 22/02/2019 14:26

I hate it when someone stands so close behind you in a queue that their chin is practically on your shoulder when there's plenty of room behind them! Some people just don't understand personal space. I babysit for a lovely family the mum's really nice and everything but she insists on being so close when we talk her nose is practically touching mine! It would be really rude to step back, but it's hard to make relaxed chit-chat like that!

OP I'm sorry abut your work stress. I do hope it can be sorted out quickly.

FurrySlipperBoots · 22/02/2019 14:28

Oh no, I just saw your update about redundancy! That stinks! Fingers crossed for you that you find a wonderful new role soon.

ConfCall · 22/02/2019 14:31

Sorry about your job OP. That's distressing.

Some people have "their" table, "their" parking space, "their" cross trainer etc. Almost like a superstition.

longtimelurkerhelen · 22/02/2019 14:32

I would and have move.

I was sitting on a bench in the park at lunchtime, peacefully smoking my pre lunch fag, not another soul about, loads of free bench's, then a pregnant lady nutter came and sat next to me and asked me to put out my cigarette Angry. I got up and moved and she followed and said, "I hope you don't mind" Well actually yes I do mind as there are plenty of other places to sit. Some people are weird.

Sorry to hear you are being made redundant Flowers

Original poster
doris9034 · 22/02/2019 14:32

Thanks furry Grin

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TyneTeas · 22/02/2019 14:38

fgs why not smile or talk to them. Miserable or what.

Perhaps dottypotter is the bloke in this?Grin

dottypotter · 22/02/2019 14:43

All this being friendly bollocks is bullshit.

I’m a friendly human bean but if I’m
wanting to eat my lunch alone, sit with my family and chill on a deserted beach etc etc why on earth do I have to befriend these space invaders.

No thanks . At that particular time in my life I want to be minding my own business- be it alone or with my family.

your not a friendly human being because you resent someone sitting next to you, you do not own the space either. Its not your space. just smile.

dottypotter · 22/02/2019 14:44

All this being friendly bollocks is bullshit.

????? Odd.

dottypotter · 22/02/2019 14:44

Perhaps dottypotter is the bloke in this?grin

is that the best you can come up with?

Lalliella · 22/02/2019 14:47

I think you’ve got dotty sat next to you OP. Run away! She’s about to invade your space even more with some inane unwanted drivel. Sorry to hear about your bad news Flowers

Original poster
doris9034 · 22/02/2019 14:49

tyne that actually made me laugh out loud!!!!

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crimsonlake · 22/02/2019 14:56

Happens to me in the cinema and the beach, what is wrong with people? I always try to sit as far away from anyone as I can. It is quite scary when you think how many selfish, ignorant people there are out there with no sense of boundaries.

Wedgiecar58 · 22/02/2019 14:57

so move if it bothers you that much!

ScienceIsTruth · 22/02/2019 14:58

I would move, and have done so in the past. Some people have no concept of personal space.

ahhhhheckmecervix · 22/02/2019 15:00

I’m sorry about your news Flowers

I can’t stand this. I always make a visible point of moving.

Lalliella · 22/02/2019 15:02

tyne 😂😂😂 I love that one of the women is disposing of a body!

ImTakingTheEssence · 22/02/2019 15:06

I hate this it happens to me all the time on the bus in a carpark at work. Latest was when i was shopping and the girl behind me had a pushchair stood beside me at the till they were still scanning my things i hadn't even payed yet. I wish i turned and said "Are you paying for my shopping then?"

SaturdayNext · 22/02/2019 15:11

Did you move to a different table, OP?

Sorry to hear the bad news.

halfwitpicker · 22/02/2019 15:12

Bean Grin

Topseyt · 22/02/2019 15:20

I get you, OP. If I go into a bar, café coffee shop etc. on my own then I am generally out for a bit of alone time - I maybe need a change of scene, so have gone out of the house, but I want to be left ALONE!!

Some people have no concept of personal space.

I disagree with dotty that you should strike up a conversation with them. Why? If there were plenty of other tables then they didn't need to sit so close.

You could move, I guess. Or just burp and fart as loudly as you can and see them hopefully scuttle away.

I was on holiday in Spain last year when a very loud group of older Spanish women came down to the swimming pool. One of them had the nerve to even park herself on the end of my sun bed while I was lying on it. She got a sharp nudge and short shrift from me. I am sure she didn't like me very much, and if looks could have killed I would have died on the spot. I didn't care though. She was a cheeky fucker doing that.

Lovemusic33 · 22/02/2019 15:26

Hate this too.
I was on a date a few weeks ago in a quite pub, it was only a 2nd date so was trying to get to know each other whilst also comparing notes from online dating. We sat in a quite area in the corner out of the way but on a sofa, there were 2 small sofas opposite each other with a coffe type table in the middle, a couple came over and sat on the sofa facing us (didn’t ask if we minded), the rest of the pub was empty, it felt very awkward, they then tried to make conversation with us which felt even more awkward. Probably wouldn’t have been so bad if we weren’t in a 2nd date.

MulticolourMophead · 22/02/2019 15:28

Randomers lol. We are all people on this planet. There is nothing wrong with smiling or talking. You are seriously lacking as a human if you just want to glare at people and be rude. B.e friendly its much better.

And you are seriously lacking in empathy. Which is also part of what makes a decent human being. You remind of all those idiots who wander around going "Smile, it might never happen". OP isn't glaring, or doing anything to these people, they just want a bit of space.

OP, sorry to hear about your redundancy, and hope you get a new role soon.

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