Hi all, I have DS 8 with my ex. We split when he was very very tiny. We agreed that he would pay me a certain amount of maintenance each week. He was really good at paying for a while, but it was a bit hit and miss as he’s very self centred with money and new girlfriends etc. At the time I was a single parent so I did rely on it so I ended up going through the csa...
As many parents who have dealt with the csa in the last few years might know that the csa service is changing into the new system (I’m not sure what it is exactly). When we had the letter about our csa claim stopping, I was keen to use the new service as I knew how inconsistent my ex was but he didn’t want to be charged for this so told me that he wanted us to make our own arrangements to avoid this. I was unsure at first but decided to give him the benefit of the doubt.
A year or to has gone by. We arranged a date each month end transfer me the maintenance. For several months it was fine, but slowly and surely it’s late, inconsistent etc etc.
I’m no longer a single parent snd not struggling as such but the money is very handy. He only has DS for a few hours a week (ex’s choice to have him for that little time, I have encouraged him to have him for longer with no luck) and it’s not like he has to spend much on him when he has him.
My ex also earns considerably more than he did 8 years ago. Should he be paying more? I don’t expect it nor ask for it but he doesn’t pay a lot compared to what I hear other non resident parents have to pay.
Sorry I am babbling, I don’t like to ask for the money and never have but it’s late and it’s half term so naturally have spent more entertaining DS and it would be handy. Would you politely remind him it’s due or wait it out?
If it carries on I will consider using the new child maintenance system even if we do both get charged for doing so.