Not able to say no so obliges

[Greysmanicfan41]

DBro taken DN to hospital, check up for asthma, so has asked DP to look after DNiece got morning, DP self employed and can’t afford to lose, £200 average 4/5 hours work, but DP goes ahead says yes, feeling obliged as usual, will moan can’t afford it?

Why can’t DP bro just take niece with him? Or ask step mum who retired, or DM to take AL for half a day least DM be paid?

AIBU

YABU
Dp goes ahead says yes
Someone asked him a favour and he said yes. He could have said that he couldn't afford to lose the money, but he didn't, he said yes.

Because he asked your partner and he said yes. If he'd said no, then DB would've had to explore other options.
However you don't have to listen or sympathise with his moaning, if he's not happy about it he could've said no.

Tell your DP in future to say "I'll check with the misses and get back to you" as the default answer to any requests for favours. Then it takes the onus off him if he doesn't like saying no. Then you get back to whoever is asking. That's what my dad does.

Issue is DP always losing money for them, tbh and then moans DP barely has any cash to pay bills and expenses for business!

If your dp doesn’t say “sorry no I can’t” then the only person to blame is him.

Not wanting to take a child to a hospital appointment when he had an alternative is always sensible!

Your DP is supposedly a grownup. He needs to decide what is important and where his priorities lie. They might not think his job is that important or that it's a massive inconvenience to help them,but that's because he painted that picture. He dumps everything to help them with no thought with how it will affect finances and household and then moans privately to you.
He can't have it both ways.

Is he always such a wet fart?

Why did your brother ask your husband instead of you? That's weird.
But otherwise - if the others mentioned are busy - would you really not take your niece for a couple of hours so she didn't have to sit in a hospital and get bored? Kids in hospital are a pain. Unless there's a back story and he has form for being a CF, I think you're being a bit unreasonable.

Although DP is unreasonable for checking with you first

For NOT checking with you first!

sar sounds like it's DP's brother not OP's.

No one else was asked DP should of been last one knowing he self employed

He's probably first on the list because he always says yes, He can solve this easily by saying no.

Your DP needs to say, ‘No, I’m working.’

Then it will stop. Bit of a no brainer really.

You would of thought so tbh!
Or they make head way and think he lose money on it!