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Original poster

To have hit delete?

15 replies

shesgrownhorns · 21/02/2019 17:10

We have a business facebook page that receives messages that I trudge through daily. Orders, issues etc. But yesterday I opened up only to find a message from my husband's ex. A stupid panda saying hello.. three times. Nothing else.

I hit delete and didn't tell the husband.

Is that unreasonable?

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erja · 21/02/2019 17:12

I feel like there's not enough info to decide!
How long were they together? How serious? How long ago was it?
Seems a bit unnecessary to delete it if you're secure in your marriage but also seems a bit unnecessary for her to be sending it anyway?

WorraLiberty · 21/02/2019 17:12

Too little info really.

Are they friends? When was the last time they saw each other?

reallyanotherone · 21/02/2019 17:14

No.

A polite message regarding an order, or some other issue, fine.

Waving panda’s? Delete every time.

Original poster
shesgrownhorns · 21/02/2019 17:14

Sorry for not enough info.

They were together 2 years and it was serious. He finished with her though because she was messing about with someone else.

We've been married 10 years.

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Saucery · 21/02/2019 17:16

Not business related, fine to just delete and ignore.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 21/02/2019 17:17

My instinct would be that she was nosing on the page and accidentally sent stickers. It's easy to do on a mobile. I manage 40 odd pages and it happens a lot! Most people blame their toddler Grin

Original poster
shesgrownhorns · 21/02/2019 17:19

I had a little look on her facebook page and it's full (quite literally) full of selfies of herself.

I don't like people who post selfies all the time I think it's narcissistic. But that's just me.

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WorraLiberty · 21/02/2019 17:43

Perhaps she was replying to a hello but your DH deleted the sent one?

Either way, I'd have no problem mentioning it to my DH in a 'How strange' kind of way.

WorraLiberty · 21/02/2019 17:44

Not sure what the selfies have to do with it though, as I assume you would've still deleted anyway?

llangennith · 21/02/2019 17:50

YANBU. Hit delete every time.

Original poster
shesgrownhorns · 21/02/2019 17:56

The nosing was just to find out what kind of person she seemed to be. Wether she looked like a bunny boiler.

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YourSarcasmIsDripping · 21/02/2019 18:26

How does a bunny boiler even look like? Crazed eyes, wild hair and her fb page a shrine to your DH?
If this is the only time she initiated contact in 10 years it doesn't scream bunny boiler anyways, pandas or no panadas.

LuckyLou7 · 21/02/2019 18:31

Probably a mistake. I accidentally posted a cartoon person with their hands in the air saying 'yay!' under a comment from a friend about losing her job - oops. I swiftly deleted it and replaced it with a suitably sympathetic comment, but on the phone, Facebook often gives a choice of unsuitable emojis to reply with.

JacquesHammer · 21/02/2019 18:32

Why wouldn’t you tell him?

Aridane · 21/02/2019 20:49

You sound a little bit insecure

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