To find this habit utterly infuriating?

[Lipsticktraces]

Please give me your opinions as apparently I’m BU!

DH has a habit of pretending he’s going to do the opposite of what I want/ask him to do. For example I might say “shall we get the babies ready to go out?” (We have six month old twins) and he’ll reply “No, we’ll stay in” He’ll then repeat himself a few times when I say we have to do as I’ve suggested. Or I’ll ask him if he’s getting up and he’ll say “no I’ll stay in bed” even though he knows he’s getting up.

I’ve just hit the roof after he’s done it for the sixth time today when I asked if he’s taking dog a walk (his response was “No, I’ll stay here”) He’s told me he’s only joking and I have no sense of humour. Am I wrong in thinking there’s nothing funny about what he’s doing and it’s actually incredibly passive agressive?

I don't ask the husband a question, I just tell him I'll let him do X,y,z. Like I'm doing him a favour.

Don't ask the question, he can't be a knob about it then.

Oh my lord, you have my sympathy if you don't share your OH's sense of humour. My OH can be a total nightmare at times, so annoying in different ways I can't begin to tell you, but he makes me properly laugh on a regular basis.

YANBU, that would totally infuriate me. I'd be trying all sorts to get it to end.

It's as if some of them don't know when pissing about is appropriate and when it's not.

Mine has a touch of form for this.

If I'm stood there holding two bits of wood together and say, 'pass me that screwdriver', He will go "what? This one?" , when it's the only one out then wave it about just out of reach with a 'say please" while laughing. Thinks he's being cute and funny. I have to resist the temptation to give him a serious poke with it.

There's a time and a place for ha-has, while I'm in the middle of a DIY task is not one of them.

Are you danish? Thats a very danish way to formulate a sentence. Drives me crackers. Uou could say right its time to get the babies ready. Take the question out.

My dh pretends he hasn’t heard me - every single bloody time - or he fires questions back about really insignificant bits of the story pretending he is confused. It’s to delay what I’m saying and wind me up. . It infuriates me now - I never repeat myself anymore. Most of the time I just stop and walk off or start doing something else. I think he thinks it funny but it just makes me not want to talk to him.

If someone tries the "I was just joking" I deadpan back "you need new material".

But I have been guilty in the past of phrasing responses in the form of a question, ie "would you like to chop some onions?", "do you want to hoover the sitting room" etc. It invited sarcastic replies. It wasn't until one boyfriend became exasperated and straight up told me how annoying it was that I really understood and stopped.

Looking back, it was something I'd picked up from my mother as a way of "asking nicely". In fact , it was passive and annoying, and now, if I have a request to make I just say it straight out (with appropriate please and thank yous).