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AIBU?

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To ask how to get your child to be sensible/calm or make better choices????

28 replies

beckieperk · 21/02/2019 15:45

My 7 year old boy has always been a handful, but can be loving, caring and sweet too. We had another baby December 2017 and he took well to being a big brother, however we are still having issues with his behaviour.
He very rarely listens to instructions, ie "put your pyjamas on and put your clothes in the basket." No movement. So I ask again. Repeat another 3 or 4 times before anything happens.....at which point I'm shouting. He's getting angry at me for repeating myself (!!!) and we end up falling out. This can happen about 5 times a day over different tasks. Particular favourites at the moment, not brushing teeth, eating breakfast or getting off his switch!
When he is "playing" with his baby brother he grabs him, restricts his movements, which makes the baby frustrated and he ends up crying. I tell him to stop this about 10 times a day too.
Recently had parents evening and his teacher said he's very easily distracted and loses focus quickly. This often leads to distracting his peers.
Is this normal? Should I approach in a different way? Any tips? Will he grow out if it?? Should I worry about ADHD or similar??
Am I being unreasonable??

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BertieBotts · 22/02/2019 13:05

Experience, reading, general research over time. I couldn't name my sources as far too many but if you already have some experience or a basic understanding of the kinds of problems ADHD causes I can highly recommend the Russell barkley lectures on YouTube. His parenting book for ADHD kids is excellent as well.

BertieBotts · 22/02/2019 13:07

My problem is I know how to combat the ADHD issues (many, not all of them) but I massively struggle to implement the methods and tips because of my own untreated ADHD Hmm hopefully I can start medication soon which might help.

weebarra · 22/02/2019 15:20

I will look into Russell Berkley, thanks Bertie.
I too make sure excuses for DS1 and screen time.

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