What time is it ok to ask if you child is coming out to play.

[Burlea]

It's 10pm and our door bell rings, DH answers and it's 2 of our sons mates asking if he's coming out. One of these boys is 10 and the other is 9.
Our son is in his bedroom watching TV only because it's school holidays. Normally in bed for 9ish.
I've just sent text to the 10 year olds mother and she didn't seem shocked, the reply was it's only round the corner. There is a big green between us and her and usually that's where they hang out. Playing football etc. Ok there are no cars can get near.

Way too late. My rule is for the summer thats fine because its bright.

But when it gets dark early the latest would be 7.

10 is ridiculous i cant believe she said ah its only around the corner

That’s far too late. Even for older children let alone those ages.

10pm is far too late even in the holidays!

In the summer holidays, when it's light, I sometimes let my two older DC (7yo and 10yo) stay out in the back garden until around 10pm so long as they're not screaming or shouting but not out in the street at that time. They do play in the street but this time of year I call them in before it's fully dark and in summer at around 7/8pm depending on whether it's a school night.

I wouldn't want my 12 year old wandering about at 10pm!

Way too late! Even in the summer that's far too late to call to anyone's door. After 8pm 3pm I want to see nobody that I don't live with

10pm would not be acceptable to me. Apart from anything it's dark, what would they doing at that time in dark, outside?

Whattt???? Far far too late for kids at this age to be out! I have an 11 year old and I would go ballistic if she went to her friends house at 10pm to ask if they were going out and vice versa, albeit I wouldn’t let DD out to roam the steeets at 10pm anyway, especially not at this time of year.

During summer holidays, when it’s still light at this time I do let her stay out front with friends till around 10pm, but she’s literally outside the front door with friends who stay in our street.

There's probably more weirdos out or more opportunity to get into trouble when it's late but light rather than late and dark. There is a clear pattern to major trauma in children if you look at the data. Goes up May-Sep....no school, better weather, later out and about, increased risk taking.

It's not "safer" just because it's light.

Thats way too late even during the school hols.
Its dark, what on earth would they do after 10pm...plus depending on where you live lots of dodgy people out there esp at night.

That's batshit. Even when I was a kid (1980's,) we used to play out late in the May to September months, sometimes til 9pm, even 10pm in the summer hols. But the very idea of going OUT at 10pm is just daft. No-one does that, not even adults, (except maybe 17 to 25 y.o's who are going clubbing.)

10pm?! Holy Christ thats late. Holidays or not!

My 16 year has to be in by 10

How rude! Most adults are sloping off to bed because they work. Why would you stay up and wait for them to come in?

I’d report them

I'd be wondering wtf was going on if anyone came round at 9pm never mind 10pm. Even if my kids were adult it would still be unacceptable.

At that age ?
In the afternoon. Before tea (In Winter).
Maybe in school Summer holidays, after an early tea would be ok for an hour.

I would be a gibbering wreck if our doorbell went at 10pm, I could only think it would be bad news

I’d report them

Report them to who or where exactly!?

Regardless of the time of year or school holidays yes it’s too late