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AIBU?

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To be slightly annoyed that DD’s school won’t let her go on this outing?

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UserUser123 · 20/02/2019 20:40

Last week DD (11) fell and broke her wrist so she’s in a cast at the moment.

Her class are going to a rugby tournament tomorrow and DD was told today that she won’t be allowed to attend because of her wrist. She’s the only one in her class not going. She assumed that she’d still be able to go, albeit she wouldn’t be able to take part, but she thought she’d still have been able to attend and watch her class play. She did suggest this to her teacher, who said he’d be happy for her to go but the head teacher has said no, she’s to be excluded (her word, not mine) from the event.

I do understand there is a very very slight risk of her being injured again 🤷🏽‍♀️ but I am kind of annoyed that they’re excluding her and letting everyone else in her class go.

Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed?

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Sirzy · 20/02/2019 20:42

I think really you should have spoken to the school about the trip sooner than the day before!

But what’s the point in her going if she can’t particpaite?

HerRoyalNotness · 20/02/2019 20:44

Well I’d think she could go and support her class and watch and learn. That’s what we do with our rugby kids who can’t play or my son who is having a tantrum on the side. Either play or watch.

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UserUser123 · 20/02/2019 20:45

I didn’t know about it. We sign a form at the beginning of each term that covers all school outings so there was no letter home about it. DD hadn’t mentioned it to me until tonight as they only told her today that she wasn’t being allowed to go.

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UserUser123 · 20/02/2019 20:47

@sirzy But what’s the point in her going if she can’t participate?

Eh, to watch her class...support them...cheer them on. And also, so she doesn’t feel excluded. I mean it’s not like she broke her wrist on purpose 🙄

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ASauvignonADay · 20/02/2019 20:48

Surely she can go and watch/support? What are they planning for her to do in school instead (is she primary or secondary - not sure as 11)?

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UserUser123 · 20/02/2019 20:49

Primary school. They said she’s to sit in with the primary 6 class.

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Bloodyfucksake · 20/02/2019 20:55

Just wondering if maybe there is nobody to watch her? Perhaps every member of staff is given a job to do and nobody is around to make sure 'extra' kids don't get hurt / in trouble somehow? Even if your child is the most sensible in the world, if there's nobody to care for them for most of the day, maybe it's not for the best.

One of my DS missed his class activity week due to a broken bone last year. It was not fun for him, but the logic made sense.

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UserUser123 · 20/02/2019 20:56

@Bloodyfucksake

That makes sense actually, I never thought of that! I’ll say that to her, then she’ll maybe be a bit more understanding of why she can’t go. She is really gutted about it.

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burblife · 20/02/2019 21:04

I agree it could be a staffing issue. How many children are going altogether? There will be strict ratios and possibly no one spare to sit with her all day. It's a shame though.
Can you go in with her in the morning and ask about staffing/risk assessments?

CloudPop · 20/02/2019 21:06

Seems a shame for her to miss out though - surely someone could keep an eye on her in the stands ?

spaghettipeppers · 20/02/2019 21:12

Think it's the right call. It's probably in a sports hall or field where there won't be seats in view of the teacher. Teacher and other helpers will be standing on the sidelines and jumping out of the way periodically- not safe with broken limbs.

Rotten for her though. Maybe she could spend the day with the little ones? Would she enjoy that?

Hippee · 20/02/2019 21:12

I would think it is definitely staffing. My friend's DS couldn't go on a residential because there wasn't the staffing ratio to have a teacher with him when he wasn't able to join in with certain activities.

AlaskanOilBaron · 20/02/2019 21:17

Wrists are very commonly re-broken (I've been to 4x orthopaedic surgeon appts in as many weeks).

Why not just fetch her from school and have a nice day a deux?

thesnapandfartisinfallible · 20/02/2019 21:32

Perhaps she could be a teachers helper for the day with one of the much younger classes? Is that the sort of thing she might enjoy? Or if you don't have to work, perhaps you could call her in sick and take her somewhere fun?

kateandme · 20/02/2019 21:38

oh that tough op.how is she feeling.try to jush her up and not let her get down or upset bout it.
maybe call firs tthing.at least to find out why.there could be some perfectly reasonable irrational lol explanation but id want to know what it is.
I agree she should be going to be ncluded and to just watch.and its bad luck if it is to do with staff which they should have perhaps thoughts of seeing as some kids might be poorly or have different abilities and not be able to join

CactusPete · 20/02/2019 21:43

For H&S, even if not taking part and just watching, a member of staff will need to supervise her and be funded to supervise her.

SnuggyBuggy · 21/02/2019 02:39

Maybe just let her have a day off school or something

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 21/02/2019 02:49

It sucks when they have to miss fun stuff due to injury / illness. DD2 was puking all of Monday night and had to miss a trip to the French cinema on Tuesday. She was gutted.

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