Children's birthday party

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ShortandStout1 · 20/02/2019 17:39

My cousin or more like brother as we were raised in the same households has a child which is about to turn 3 next month. He and his partner invited us to his child's party which is on the Saturday which is great as me and my partner work weekdays but now the child's mother has posted saying his "proper party" is on Monday when no family members can come because of work schedules. AIBU to be upset that I'm not invited to her proper party?

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thewinkingprawn · 20/02/2019 17:42

In the nicest way you really are - we used to do a tea party for family and then a party for children when they were pre school. Tbh much nicer for the family anyway!! When he/she goes to school it will be on a weekend and you can go along then I am sure (but you’ll barely see the birthday child as they will be with friends!)

MiniEggAddiction · 20/02/2019 17:43

What does she mean by "proper party". It may mean the party with all her friends from nursery. My DC might refer to their party with school friends as their "proper party" but I wouldn't even invite family members to this as it'll just be loads of kids running riot in a soft play.

dementedpixie · 20/02/2019 17:43

Maybe the proper party is for children rather than adults/ family. A bit daft to get upset by it

WorraLiberty · 20/02/2019 17:46

Yes YABU, unless you want to tell them you can book the day off work, should they want you there?

Perhaps they assumed you couldn't or wouldn't?

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 20/02/2019 17:46

We always do a separate thing for family. When DD has her friends there she isn't interested in anything else. That way, family get to spend time with her and she can have fun with her friends.

StinkyCandle · 20/02/2019 17:56

YABU

you are invited to a birthday party, they are not excluding you. The kid is 3, it's hardly a big deal anyway.

I've always had a "family" party for the grown up and a "kids friends" party, but frankly your (as good as) brother doesn't have to invite you at all, they are allowed to have their own life! They are hosting something for you, you should be grateful.

NerrSnerr · 20/02/2019 18:43

I assume the proper party is the one for friends, so a bunch of 3 year olds running around, possibly a bouncy castle and then they eat sandwiches, party rings, cucumber and jammy dodgers. You're really not missing out.

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