Facebook Birth Groups

[littlerascal12345]

AIBU to think that these are a nightmare?

I've just left my second. Was on one with my first child and not long after they were born it all descended into bitchiness. If you offered an actual opinion rather than 'you ok hun?' It wasn't liked.

Baby 2 is now 12 weeks old. I posted in the group I've just left asking advice about moving him to his own room as he disturbs me constantly but sleeps through himself. Only to be basically shot down with all the so called risks and the 'admin' shoving guidelines down my throat.

Does anyone actually find these groups good or useful or are they just another way to make mums feel like crap?! Friends I've got love theirs.

I would've thought a group of women advocating safe sleep and trying to ensure someone knows the risks was a good thing.
So much better than mummy knows best brigade

I was in one but am not on FB any more which is a shame. It started off on the birth boards here and I’m sure we had 80-odd people but eventually after about a year people fell out and there was a split and loads left. I was gutted at the time as it felt so cosy being in that group as we really did share a lot. Anyway the group continued with half the amount of people and I don’t think there were any issues. It’s the only thing I miss about FB

I'm currently on one and they keep putting up pictures of their baby with "little shit" and similar.

I'm as sweary as the best of 'em but I just feel uneasy about calling a 10 week old baby a little bastard because the poo went over the top of his nappy.

In my world, that just makes the poster a massive cunt.

Poster/mother that is.

I am in two - one from my first who is now 6 and one for my second who is 19 months.

They were both mumsnet groups which migrated onto FB. The first is and was absolutely wonderful. We were mainly on MN then slowly migrated to FB over time. Is started as a pregnancy group and the kids were maybe two when we finally stopped posting on here. TRhe numbers have dwindled but those remaining are fabulous. And what I love is that even though many don’t post often, when someone is really needing help people come out the woodwork.

My second group started here but only as a signpost to FB. It is also lovely but is still relatively early in inception I suppose in comparison to my other group. It isn’t very bitchy or heavily moderated but then the numbers are below 100.

So I think they can be great but they have to be small enough for people to not feel protected by online anonymity

I agree that they seem hit and miss. Friends of mine who have been in them and had to leave pretty sharpish have done so for the same reason - too much bitchiness and general parenting disagreements that descend into name-calling. Probably outing myself here, but I've been in one for over nine years. It moved from an online forum where we all met ten years ago, but I think ours is the exception rather than the rule.

I love the group I'm in. Our children are all just turning 10 now and we've still got a busy group with lots of people posting. Real mixture of topics now that the kids are getting older but still really supportive. There's been the odd falling out iver the years but nothing too serious.

I was on an ivillage antenatal club when pregnant with my youngest child. When ivillage closed we all decamped to a FB group. I did meet some lovely ladies whom I'm still friends with now, but I did leave the group as unfortunately it all revolved around one dominant, obnoxious, judgy group member who loved the sound of her own voice and opinions. People either fawned over her, or left the group because they couldn't stand her!

Littlerascal12345 I think I'm in the one that your talking about was originally run by an organisation. I've never posted in it but I'm on the brink of leaving...drama 😂