Really struggling today

[Needafriend2019]

It's half term I'm still in bed poor ds has been watching tv all morning on his own. I feel so sad and have no motivation to do anything I want to stay In bed all day and cry.

That sounds utterly miserable.

How old is your son? Can you force yourself to have a hot shower? Getting up and getting clean usually helps me to get going.

Longer term, have you seen your go about how you’re feeling?

GP?

What’s wrong OP, why are you sad?
How old is DS?

Are you sick or depressed?

He's 9, I'm in a really unhappy marriage I want my oh to leave but I can't tell him yet I need legal advice first nd sort things in my head, it's our anniversary tomorrow and he's taken the day off but we haven't made any plans I don't want to do anything I'm dreading tomorrow. I feel so down and it's not fair on the children we should be enjoying half term.

Kick yourself up the arse, get up and have a shower, get dressed and take DS out. Just get yourselves out of the house.

You will feel even worse if you don't, because you will have the depression and the burden of guilt on top.

Make sure that today, you make an urgent appointment to see your GP

Could you plan something for tomorrow that includes DS, so that he can have a day out?

Have you made an appointment re legal advice?

That does sound rotten op. Are you able to consider getting up, and, if not going out, at least pulling together a picnic lunch and snacks and cosying next to ds and make something of watching a film together? I have days I feel incapable of doing much, especially when I suffered badly frpm chronic pain and associated low moods, and forced myself to connect with dc in house. Made me feel better, and they enjoyed doing something together, and I felt less like they were abandoned due to my needs. It may offwr you comfort to do similar?

I've spend 25minutes on hold to cab this morning then gave up. I went to a woman's charity last month they were meant to call be back re legal advice but never did.
My dd is staying at her friends she's back tomorrow but dont know what time, I want to do something with ds today it's rare it's just us 2 he wants to go to the pictures.
I want to talk to my gp but my husband has a medical condition and is always at the gp they have a good relationship and it's putting me off talking to him.

Ok, ring the charity again and chase them up. Then make an appointment with your GP, it makes no difference that your husband visits him often. Is there another GP in the practice?

Try and do something nice today with DS, I’m sure you’d both enjoy it

No solution for you but can understand how you feel.
Have you got someone you can go round and see and have a chat with?
Also your gp has to keep things confidential so if you go there your husband will not find out from them.
Take things one step at a time. Get up. Have a shower. Ask your child to grab some snacks from the cupboards while you get ready and then try to get to the cinema. If you don't make it then make a den on the sofa and watch a film at home xx

We're at the cinema now, tried to get a gp appointment earliest is 7th march

Good to hear that you’ve got out to the cinema, I hope you both have a nice time OP. Well done for making the appointment too.

I slept through the whole film. I rang the gp and said I didn't want to wait that long and I have an appointment to see a different gp at 8pm tonight

The gp gave me a script for anti depressants and said he dnt think i should be st work and he would write me a sick note for next week I said no I would rather me at work.
I've been trying to ring the women's legal line but its been busy I rang the Samaritans and spoke to them for half an hour.

Well done Needafriend2019