AIBU to be disappointed by my boobs?

[Choud1616]

Pre kids they were small but nice and firm. Actually preferred them after having and breastfeeding my oldest - they were a little fuller and a nicer shape.
Then I had my second DD and breastfed her too, just recently stopped.
Now I look in the mirror and they just look crap. Saggy and small. Like empty bags.
Now I know this isn't an actual problem. I'm not comfortable with the idea of a boob job for many reasons including the message that would send my daughters and I would need to be in hospital away from my kids to have surgery for totally unnecessary reasons so none of it sits right. So it's not like there is much I can do.
Also I had cancer when I was younger (not breast) and have always felt like I love my body because it survived and gave me my kids and enables be to do everything I love and need. It fed my kids for a year a piece and keeps me here.
I also have an adoring husband.
And yet, I look in the mirror and kind of feel... Oh. That's it? This is the best I'm ever going to look again?
You know what I mean?

I think there's options apart from surgery now, I'm sure I've read about safer fillers etc.

It's totally your decision and yes, your body is amazing to come through so much - cancer, birthing, breastfeeding

Time makes a big difference, as does ageing. Had total spaniel ears after bf 4 children but quite happy with them now, have put on a bit of weight, not loads, less than half a stone and being post (surgical) menopause, they're probably the best they've ever been.

You've only just finished bf, really early days, they will change I promise!

Getting a good bra can make a huge difference too, a lot of tissue ends up spread out and getting it all contained makes things look and feel better.

They might still change again. How long is it since you stopped breastfeeding? The milk ducts will shrink down and more fat cells will replace them so you might end up a slightly different shape if you're patient.

But focus on your positive thoughts. Your body IS amazing and has served you well!

Exactly what I needed to hear on all counts! Thanks guys!

Stopped breastfeeding about a month ago so yes, still very recent.

They totally change again! Give it time. It's like the fat redistributes across the body.

When I diet, my bust empties out while everywhere else stays the same. Then after a while it shifts around a bit.

It usually takes about 4 - 6 months for you to go to a different shape apparently, when you breast feed you have engorged milkducts, they then shrink down, and you get a bigger layer of fat covering it :)

It takes time.
Mine went from 32C pre kids
34E breastfeeding
34A post breastfeeding
I am now breastfeeding no3 and dreading what will happen! But after a year or two they might fill out/ perk up a bit. But really I don't care. They come in all shapes and sizes, and smaller ones are easier to dress. And they've done their job.

It took mine a good year after I stopped breastfeeding to return to their old shape and size. Something to do with the fat cells returning? They were an A after 2 years of breastfeeding but now back to a full B/C

Yes, mine went all floppy after I stopped BF-ing, too. Hang in there, moisturise well and say kind things to yourself when you look in the mirror. It's going to be OK!

I find this thread highly reassuring!

Couldn’t care less about my boobs. I’ve been anywhere from a 36 B to a 38 E. Really doesn’t bother me how they look.

Underwired non padded M&S bra's are great for sagging, it's like an instant boob job: and they are comfortable. I never wear anything else now. (The padded ones felt v bulky & didn't look good under thinner tops ).

I hated my boobs after I’d breastfed two babies, and I’d previously had lovely full shapely boobs.
Post breast feeding like you OP they looked saggy and empty and had lost all of their fullness. For the first time ever I contemplated a boob job - fortunately I didn’t go through with it as they did recover. Took about 5 years for me but they returned to their pre-baby firmness and roundness and have remained that way. Don’t despair!

Even though they may never be as they were, wear them with pride! They've done you well. Also a good bra can really help lift your bust and your mood.

I breastfed all of mine and after I finally stopped after 5 years of BF, I could have cried. just saggy and empty.

however, within 7-8 months of stopping BF, they had sorted themselves and looked again very much like my pre BF boobs.

give it some time.

I have always thought i had nice breasts. Husband very keen on them. Recently lost a fewstone and now it seems they're really long and floppy. Two tennis balls in socks when I bend over. I need better bras to help them.look better in clothes.

I think you can feel a bit depressed post stopping breastfeeding due to the hormone change too.

I've got nice boobs now. I was a b/c cup pre baby and am now a dd. Nipples/areola are enormous though, don't know if that happens to everyone!