to ask what bizarre cruelty your dc have accused you of?

[Dohee]

I've just been reading threads and was reminded of one thing my dd said to me very earnestly one day.

'I remember you putting me to bed in the middle of the day'.

Now, either she can recall being a baby being put down for a nap, or she recalls being put to bed at her usual bed-time during the summer when it was still bright outside. Either way, she was never put to bed at 3pm for the rest of the day and night.

It's funny what they remember and what they interpret.

Have you been accused of any cruelty?

Great minds think alike

Cheddar and Gummy

When my DD was about 2 my DH had gone to the toilet, she went to open the door as my DH was coming out and he caught her toe with the bottom of the door, as r diet know she was there, for weeks, she told everyone that she had a poorly and it was daddy's fault.

I starved them. No, but after you've been up for over an hour and a half, farting around, throwing tantrums over the wrong set of socks being laid out of five pairs of exactly identical ones and have to be physically carried into the school playground because you a) want to stay at home watching cartoons and b) it's not fair that you have to walk an entire quarter mile downhill to the school because I am not a lazy cunt with a car like your father, please excuse me for not making fucking pancakes at 8.38am when you decide that you are actually hungry now, just not for the cereal, fruit or toast you that was waiting for you.

Then there was the neglected Cinderella. You can't have it both ways - either I am allowed to go into your room in search of washing, or I am banned from it at risk of enraged shrieking about your rights to privacy. If you don't bring it out or let me me get it, it's hardly surprising that I will tell you that you're 12 years old and more than capable of putting your own washload on if you're capable of shrieking at me like I'm your fucking servant at 11.30pm because you don't have any clean clothes. Moreover, how is offering to PAY YOU a tenner a week to stick some crunchies down for the cats in the morning, load the dishwasher occasionally and maybe try and uncover at least a square foot of floor in your bedroom - in the vague hope that you'll use some it to buy some food on the way to school because you refuse to eat in the morning - EVER Child Exploitation and Modern Slavery?

But her father believed her. Of course he did.

My DS just today ran off in the street and tripped over his own feet. Ran up to check on him and he wailed “You tripped me up” Erm, excuse me but I was nowhere near you . 2 minutes later were at the cash machine and it starts to rain very lightly and this time he shrieks “Why are you spitting on me”... it’s been a fun day.

Well yes, 40 was still a lot of money. Also abuse, was that we said she would have to do more chores and help around the house more, because she was getting more money than she usually would! It was all ridiculous. I actually wanted, due to the attitude, to say she got nothing. But DH is way too soft with her.

No I didn't believe others were getting 100

For the record, I am not the OP's dd. But I am the daughter of a mother who denies that certain things happened during my childhood, which I remember, and she does not. I believe the accepted term is 'gaslighting'.

The point I was making was that OP said she never put her child to bed at 3pm. Yet her child distinctly remembers that. Who is to say who is correct?

My son (5) stood up at assembly and told his school I was going to America to make 'an adult movie'

I was going for standard boring work reasons

@EggysMom the DD didn't say you put me to bed at 3pm, she said you put me to be in the middle of the day. My DD said that to me last summer, even though it was 7.30pm, because the sun was still up. It was the same when trying to get her up for school after we turned the clocks back, "but it is still nighttime" no it is 8 o'clock and we are going to be late, get up.

Mine was almost worthy of ringing childline apparently.
My crime?? It was asking DS13 to clear the table AND load it into the dishwAsher 😮.
“So unfair, practically child labour, dont you even know child labour is illegal, why are you even asking me, you never ask HER (nods at dd) to do ANYTHING “ et al .....🙄

'Mummy stays in bed all day.'
Reader, mummy did indeed stay in bed all day. Mummy worked nights!

Your memory is no more accurate than your DD's.

Really? Because you were gaslighted does not mean the pp did this. Nor does she state the age of the child who may have been teeny, who knows, given its years after the event when the dd claims this.

DS accused me of "beating" him to get him to tidy his room this evening. Turns out he thought "beating" meant shouting... Which I also wasn't doing at that point in time. What I was doing was calmly explaining that he wouldn't be getting the hot chocolate I'd said he could have if he tidied quickly because he hadn't tidied quickly. Apparently this is the same thing as physically assaulting him. He did eventually admit there might be a tiny difference...

@Vixxxy I wouldn't have given her anything after she was rude, I'm with you! If someone gives you something for fun you should be nice and thank them!

I'm thinking my DC might try that once or twice and then never again when the original offer is withdrawn after a tantrum.

For the thread, DC1 is not yet 2.5 and he has thrown a (screaming, collapsing on the floor) tantrum today because I was horrible to him. I didn't allow him to put raw cake mixture in his 8 month old brother's mouth.

From a slightly different perspective, from my preschool room, I had a few dramatic tales of parents abuse told to me this week: (fake names)
The girl who’s friend wandered off to play with someone else “and you’ve just left me too, just like my mum does, she leaves all by myself in the dark at night with no one there and nothing to do” Molly do you mean when mum puts you to bed? “Yep! She just leaves me all by myself all the time I’m on my own” cue dramatic sigh

The child talking about there food: “I never have sweets. I’m only allowed one biscuit. My mum and dad are really mean. They make me share my chocolate. They don’t buy me kinder surprises ever. They got me nothing for my birthday just toys” (holding onto a brand new action hero of some sort in the process)

Likewise, the dramatic finger of accusation pointed at me (this was today!)
Crying dramatically to his mum:
“I wasn’t allowed to show my toy at show and tell and everyone else was and she just didn’t let me and she didn’t let me outside and she gave me the smallest pudding and she never let me eat my snack and she didn’t let me have the bike and I didn’t want that story and I wasn’t allowed to do painting”
I child bought in their new kitten at show and tell which took the whole time (so no one else showed toys!) I said he had to put his shoes on to go outside during free flow which he didn’t want to do, he said he hated the pudding so only wanted to try and he had the tiniest nibble so I just gave him a small portion with promise of seconds if he liked it, he never asked to do painting and no one played on the bikes today because we went on a long nature walk and to the local playground! But no, he claimed he never wants to see me again

When my eldest started school she wrote in a news book every day. Imagine our horror when, at parent's evening, we saw that she had written "mummy thru a nif" 😶

Yes, I had thrown a knife, but it was the butter knife, and I threw it at the sink. Fortunately the teacher knew us, and hadn't taken it seriously!

Not my child, but my brother. We were leaving to visit our grandmother, and had packed our little suitcases (he was about 3, I was about 5), and we were at the top of the stairs, when he fell, and rolled all the way down to the bottom. Personally, I think he was being a little dramatic, since there was a large landing in the middle of the stairs, and he actually had to roll across the landing, around a corner, to go the whole way down. 🙄 He swore from that day to this that I pushed him. Which I did not do. I was terrified when he fell. 36 years later, he will still bring up the time I pushed him down the stairs. And, he told my nieces and nephew the story, and they bring it up!

Not me, but my little brother. Without my mum's knowledge, I had took my brother to enter a bonnie baby contest at a holiday camp we were staying on (I was 14 and said I was taking him the park - he must have been nearly 3)

He told the host that our mum smacked him and gave him stones for his dinner.

Needless to say he won and it must have been out of pity.

DN rang the police as his snooker ball had been stolen by every member of the family. It had rolled under the sofa.

Can I clarify that I never put dd to bed in the middle of the day, not least because I worked 9 - 5.30 Mon-Fri, wasn't home from work after collecting her until 6.50pm, and she spent every weekend at her grandmothers! She was 5 when this accusation of my abuse was made. I do recall her complaining at 7.30pm that it's still 'the day' when she was younger, so that may have been her comprehension of it. I made the time 3pm up, as I have no idea what time she presumed I had put her to bed. In the day it was apparently.

@Sparkletastic your post made me literally LOL 😂

DS (age 3) accused me of pushing him over this week, in actual fact I turned to talk to him suddenly on the drive as we were walking to the car and my huge baby bump (39 weeks preg) bumped him straight in the face and knocked him to the floor! All the way to nursery I had to hear 'lm soooo saddd Mumma pushed me over' !! I was dreading him telling someone at nursery & how awful it sounded lol.

When DS was around three, he was telling his key worker at nursery I was in prison.

I actually worked in a prison at the time . I was obviously let out for drop off and pick ups

My 4yo son hates having his hair washed and carrys on like hes being tortured God knows what the neighbours must think!
I also get 'I'm soooo hungry mummy, sooo hungry' if I tell him he cant have sweets in the shop. Like I starve him or something!

Fed DS fish fingers for supper, not realising that he'd had them for dinner in school.

"Twice in one day is abuse, Mum."

He was 9.

Mum made me eat bogies and fed up of eating bogies. It was peas that dc had a thing for until one day decided didn't like them. Didn't make dc eat them either.

Mum strangled me. Dc decided to dart into the road. I reached out and managed to catch him by his coat, that was fastened. This was witnessed by a member of staff at the nursery who was also implicated in the strangulation.

Childline threats for - no wifi, taking away devices, not allowing a snack as dinner is being served and many more.

Sent them all to bed in the middle of the day. Yup summer when it's still light at 7:30

Tried to drown one of them. The horrible person I am washing their hair.

Burnt another one. Dc touched the hot radiator even though been told it was hot. Moved from the radiator several times. Moved something in front of the radiator to stop an accident happen.

Yes the I do everything around here when asked to do something minor.

Stabbed one of them. The way they went on about it you would have thought they needed stitches and everything. All that happened was bad timing with my fork, my food and their hand. No mark, no indentation, nothing.

I could go on. 4 dc's who have also blamed each other for being mean, hitting, kicking etc over the years. Now they sit and piss themselves laughing remembering what they blamed people for.