To have had enough and just cry

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I’m currently 18 weeks pregnant with my second baby and I really can’t take it anymore. I’ve had horrific hypremisis and the vomiting hasn’t been controlled even with medication and now I’m in agony with spd- plus to top it all off today I’ve got conjunctivitis 😩

I know I’m lucky to be pregnant and wouldn’t swap this for the pain of infertility but I’m finding it so hard to be grateful right now even though this baby is very much wanted and planned, my DH has been amazing and supportive taking over all the housework and doing everything he can to help and my family have been great but I’m just really struggling. 😢 anyone found anything that helps?

I've no advice but wanted to send a hug and bump your thread.

My HG was mild and I reduced it by only eating gingernuts and bananas (my life saviours) but that probably isn't much help to you if your condition is quite severe, sorry!

Big hugs

Serola belt for your pelvis, crutches, ice, baths.

Ginger tea for nausea.

Both are hell - I feel for you getting the SPD so early. It’s torturous. I’ve been through two pregnancies with it and it was unbelievable.

A chiropractor helped me but there are good ones and less good ones. Physios and Osteopaths can also help.

I am so sorry op, l didnt have HP but felt horribly nauseous and dizzy the whole of both my pregnancies.......the second time l was totally panicked and didn't know how l was going to get through it.....

What helped me was,
First, the knowledge that every day l got through was one day closer to the birth, l used to tick them off my calendar.
Second, sleeping as much of the day as possible, constant naps, early to bed.
Thirdly knowing the 9 months of hell, would give me a lifetime of joy with my children.
Lastly, not doing anything that made me feel worse, ie got a cleaner and dog walker so l could just lay still more!

Keep going op it will be worth it...

What medications are you taking?

There's a really supportive group on the pregnancy boards, just for hyperemesis support. I'm not sure how to link but they are really helpful.

How old is your first? Mine was 12 and I still felt so guilty for being able to do nothing with them

Nothing really helped me but my DP took over everything with no complaint so that made it slighlty easier. I ate such rubbish, I could only really stomach salt and vinegar crisps and flat coke, so that's what I had. Took a sick bowl everywhere I went.

Try to remember it won't be forever, it will pass. DS2 was born, the sick feeling stopped straight away. Just be kind to yourself.

Lots of rest. Ask for a drug called ondansetron. I was on this all the way through my last pregnancy (I was puking up to 30 times a day). I found ice lollies and lemonade were the best thing when sick but I guess it’s different for everyone. If you can get the sickness under control, your spd might improve (mind did). I know it’s not much comfort and hg is really really shit but it won’t last forever and it’s so worth it when you get to the end. Take each day at a time x

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3501892-Hyperemesis-Support

Thanks everyone, my ds is 3 so resting is hard, I’m on cyclizine and prochlorperizide which I find help more than the ondancetron did

I hate the vomiting but I’m finding the pain from the spd so much harder and knowing I’ve got so long to go and it’s only going to get worse😩

So much sympathy OP I was vomiting for the whole nine months, HG is horrific and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It will not be helped with ginger biscuits or travel bands, I used to get incandescent with rage when well meaning people offered their stupid suggestions. Meds didn't work for me either, it was just a case of sticking it out.

There is just something about conjunctivitis that always tips me over the edge! I second PP advise to look for a chiropractor with experience treating pregnant women and to try a serola belt and ice for the SPD.

For the conjunctivitis yes, it could be viral, but you can get chloramphenicol eye drops over the counter. Very little if any is going to end up in your blood stream so don’t panic about the ‘can’t guarantee safe for pregnancy’. With luck it’ll help within 24-48 hrs.

My body hated pregnancy all three times, too, Just seemed to fall apart.

Just know I have all the sympathy in the world for you, it's horrible.

I really feel for you, OP. I had hg terribly and somedays I could barely lift my head up from my pillow I was that drained. One thing that did really help was the Rochester ginger drinks from Holland and Barrett. I had an egg cup shot every morning and mixed with teas throughout the day. It's much stronger than biscuits and only 3.99 www.hollandandbarrett.com/shop/product/rochester-ginger-drink-60047938?utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&gclsrc=aw.ds&&&gclid=CjwKCAiAkrTjBRAoEiwAXpf9CePgSnnNlvms3HAveUu3Nr1mzrb2M3IcYrvECyZOr1kXezioGOZ0hhoCGJ0QAvD_BwE

Have you tried metaclopramide? I found it helped a bit along with ondanestron. Mine was partly due to heartburn so I was also prescribed ranitidine and omeprazole which really helped. Other things: REST! Can you put your 3 year old in FT nursery? Any family who can help out?

You'll get through this 🌺