To be irrationally angry at DM for eating my soup (I want this to be light hearted … but I fear I’m seething)

[Whatdoesitmatteranyway]

Stay with DM during the week for work reasons. Most of the time I travel Monday mornings but occasionally on a Sunday if there are engineering works.

I eat soup for lunch – normally a pot of fresh soud from Sainsbury or M&S. Most of the time I leave a tub in the fridge in work over the weekend so I have lunch available Monday without having to go to the supermarket first – then I shop on a Monday evening for provisions for the week.

Couple of weeks ago I knew I was travelling up on the Sunday so left my Monday soup in my mums fridge. Got there on the Sunday night – and the soup was gone. She’d eaten it. I didn’t mind except that it meant I had to go shopping on way into work which on a Monday can’t be done early as the shops don’t open until 7 which means I couldn’t get into work early enough that I can get away early. Bit of a minor grumble but lots of piss taking of the mother about taking food out of her daughters mouth – all meant in a joking manner – and also that the one she’d eaten had upset her stomach (so karma!).

Last week I left three cartons in the fridge over the weekend as I went home early due to being ill. Two of the same flavour she’d eaten the previous time and one that I REALLY REALLY like but you can only get in some shops some of the time as it’s a special edition. Made a joke with her that “I know there’s three cartons in the fridge and I’ve marked them against theft!”. Got a slightly snotty reply “If I want to eat one I will and replace it”.

So she did – and I suspect to make a point more than wanting one. Except she ate the special edition flavour. Which I knew you couldn’t get in any of the branches near to her. When I commented on it Sunday night she said “I’ll replace it tomorrow” but didn’t quite get that SHE COULDN’T REPLACE THAT FLAVOUR unless she drove 25 miles to the nearest very very large branch. She replaced it with a crappy lentil one. I’m tempted to leave the crappy lentil one until it becomes a science experiment on the top shelf of her fridge since she can’t reach it!

I’m over invested in this I think.

I'd like to know flavour of soup too.

It's not irrationally angry to be annoyed with someone who is doing something deliberately to piss you off. Which is clearly what's happening, since in any normal relationship you'd just ask them not do it again, and they wouldn't, unless it was an emergency, in which case you wouldn't mind.

Lighthearted? then you won't mind:

Put either poison (just a little bit) or laxatives in your soup. A kind of Russian roulette 😇 would teach you both.
Your dm sounds very tolerant, be kind to her and buy your soup on way to work.

I love soup but I don’t know if I could eat it every day.
Do you eat soup the weekend?
Have you always only had soup for lunch? Do you have bread with it?
Do you ever make your own soup?

Do you have certain flavours for different days?
Is it always the same brand of soup ?

I never forgave my SIL, now an ex, after she took and ate my last yogurt from her grandmother's fridge without asking. Her brother and I lived with the grandmother and the yogurt was on our shelf. It was strawberry flavour and it happened in 2002.

Arseholes out in force again, can't believe posters look up previous posts to try and score points. Pathetic behaviour

Is it the Waitrose keralen chicken? She did you a favour if so - way too high in saturated fat

Can't believe you begrudge your mum some soup

Other lunches are available

Buy her that special soup she loves for a treat

Don't be petty about soup

I'd like to know flavour of soup too.

Keralan Chicken flavour.

Thank putyour, so you are the birthday card lady, op. Both you and your dm seem batshit over the smallest of things 🙄.

TBH it sounds like the sort of thing I've 'threatened' ds1 (23) with in the past. For example, fed up with his teenagery refusal to pick up wet towels from the floor or his habit of leaving dirty mugs around, I'd've bellowed "When you get your own house I'm going to come and leave wet towels and dirty cups all round YOUR house and SEE HOW YOU LIKE IT!!!!!".

Did you used to pinch your mother's things OP?

Ah ffs. She's not "begrudging her mother some soup". It's just that she had lunch ready for Monday morning, her mum ate it, so OP then had to go out of her way to get more lunch in the morning which had the knock-on effect of messing her hours up.

If I'd made myself a sandwich or something to save time in the morning (as i frequently do) then got up to find DH had snaffled it, leaving me to make myself another lunch and making me late, I would be pissed off too! Unless there was LITERALLY nothing else for OPs mum to eat then no, YANBU.

Are you the mother and daughter that argued about the dishwasher and you measured the dishwasher trays to prove a point?

If you aren't - sorry
If you are - Travelodge!!!

I love lentil soup. I’ll go and stop with your mum.

Yanbu, that's annoying. Just buy more soup in future? It's usually fine for a few weeks.

Yanbu I would be annoyed too especially as she seems to have made a decision to piss you off on purpose
It's not the soup it's that it is your work lunch and cocks up the planning of that

Can you keep them in the freezer over the weekend instead?

Oh fgs! The OP clearly doesn’t begrudge the expense of DM eating the flipping soup! If you organise yourself though, so you have something for lunch in the fridge, then find it gone - several times- of COURSE it’s annoying! Dear lord! Nothing worse than the outrage of the willfully misunderstanding.....

If the OP was making herself a sandwich everyday and her DM was eating it, everyone would think that was unreasonable. But because its soup it's not?

I'm with you OP, first time I could overlook
second time would piss me right off.

Could you not say to her "Mum, I need that soup for work. It's my lunch in work. If you eat it I don't have time to stop off and get more on my way into work so I'm ending up buying a sandwich which I don't want and it is costing me twice for those lunches, once for the soup you're eating and once for the sandwich I get. Please don't eat the soups that I'm buying for my work lunch. As you like those soups, why don't I get you some of your own and put them on the bottom/middle shelf of the fridge for you and mine are on the top shelf so you'll know which ones are yours and you can eat."

Would that work?

Buy extra soup so that there's some for your mum too. Easy.

I think M&S and Waitrose have changed their soup recipes recently as they’ve suddenly started giving me the terrible shits .... and I’ve got guts of steel.

Sorry totally missing the point ...

It sounds like she doesn't want you to stay at hers.

Sounds like life is a constant stream of little dramas op

@Whatdoesitmatteranyway are you actually Ross Geller? Consider adding a note to the soup next time