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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think dh is being cruel

41 replies

Decormad38 · 19/02/2019 11:19

Im laid flat out back in spasm. I’ve asked dh if he will go to shop and get me some strong pain killers. He has done everything else including walking the dog and tidied boxes in bedroom but still not gone.
Im getting a bit frustrated and upset. AIBU?

OP posts:
AryaStarkWolf · 19/02/2019 11:21

No, absolutely not, you poor thing

MashedSpud · 19/02/2019 11:22

Why couldn't he get them while he was walking the dog?
He's being an arse.

recrudescence · 19/02/2019 11:30

Have you asked him again?

Wedgiecar58 · 19/02/2019 11:44

I think you know you're not

hoge · 19/02/2019 11:48

It's hard to say without more info. Timescale? Location of shop?

If he is refusing to go then yes, he is being cruel. If he had to walk the dog then come back with the dog and drive to the shop? Maybe not.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 19/02/2019 11:49

Has he said he will go or is he point blank refusing to get you some?

AryaStarkWolf · 19/02/2019 11:50

If he had to walk the dog then come back with the dog and drive to the shop? Maybe not.

If your DP was lying on the floor in pain, would you prioritise walking the dog or going to get pain killers for him/her?

Thequaffle · 19/02/2019 11:52

Yes, he is being cruel. He should have gone to the shop to get your medicine so that you can feel better ASAP, not done every other job under the sun first.

Original poster
Decormad38 · 19/02/2019 11:54

He’s finally gone but says he is also getting a haircut and going to dry cleaners. I’m feeling upset by this. Luckily dd in house and has got me an ice pack.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 19/02/2019 11:56

Wtf is wrong with him? How old is DD? Could she get you some?

hoge · 19/02/2019 11:57

If your DP was lying on the floor in pain, would you prioritise walking the dog or going to get pain killers for him/her?

No, I would not. Which is why I said more information was required. Because perhaps the dog actually needed a walk because they are a non shitting in the garden type and the shop is 20 miles away. On the other hand, maybe he was being cruel as OP asked. But enough information to make the judgement was not given

hoge · 19/02/2019 11:57

I mean I would not prioritise my dog

hoge · 19/02/2019 11:58

He’s finally gone but says he is also getting a haircut and going to dry cleaners.

Sorry OP, he is being a dick.

Original poster
Decormad38 · 19/02/2019 11:59

Perhaps I pissed him off and it’s retaliation time?

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Eliza9917 · 19/02/2019 12:00

What a wanker.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 19/02/2019 12:01

Is there a drip feed coming?
MN is strange this morning.

PBo83 · 19/02/2019 12:04

Maybe he's forgotten. Sounds like he's trying to keep on top of everything (presumably including things that you normally do) so it may have slipped his mind.

My wife was immobile last year after an injury. I tried to make sure that everything around the house got done as well as look after her. Unfortunately, because there are things I rarely did around the home*, I did miss some stuff but nothing a reminder didn't solve.

*Not, before I get strung up, because I believed that they were a 'woman's job' or because I'm some horrible misogynist but because I work a lot more and she does things during the day which wouldn't immediately be on my radar.

HowlsMovingBungalow · 19/02/2019 12:07

Sounds like he is punishing you by taking his time to get painkillers.

I vote Twat.

Juells · 19/02/2019 12:09

Sounds like he has some resentment towards you that he's sneakily getting revenge for 😧 That's what I'd take from it anyway 😧

Original poster
Decormad38 · 19/02/2019 12:10

Thanks for your replies. PBO83 we both work full time. I think your right to some extent. He seems to have gone into a strange mode where he’s doing weird things. My gut feeling thinking about it is that he’s got his priorities mixed up rather than just being cruel. Im never like this. Im usually 100% full pelt and it’s thrown him I think.

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bobstersmum · 19/02/2019 12:10

My dh would do exactly this. Do it in his own time when he's good and ready. Infuriating.

HollowTalk · 19/02/2019 12:12

I vote "Remember this day and next time he's in pain go out for a meal with friends while he's waiting for his painkillers."

BlahXXBlah · 19/02/2019 12:13

If I don't feed the cat when he asks and get distracted he does bad behaviour attention seeking.

Tell him if you don't get painkillers pronto you are going to piss in his shoes.

Springmachine · 19/02/2019 12:13

this is the same thing my DH has done in the past.
Ive been so ill and hes done me a 'favour' by taking DC out of the house.
Then hours later Im calling him asking where the pills are and if hes ever going to come back to even fetch me a drink or some food.

He decided to visit his parents and stay out of the way for a while.

Purplecatshopaholic · 19/02/2019 12:14

He sounds a bit of a twat to be honest. If he is not normally like this then there is something else going on. If he is normally like this I would be questioning my relationship.