To think this is ridiculous?

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Mammyloveswine · 18/02/2019 23:15

So this morning I sorted out the kitchen and washing (Was a bit of a tip) whilst the two young DC (aged 1 and 3) pottered about. Meanwhile hubby took himself for a leisurely trip to the barber's. He refused to take the 3 year old who also needed a haircut as "it's hard work". (He has promised to take him along tomorrow).

We are in the process of decluttering as we're desperate to move, so I had planned on spending the day sorting out the mountains of clothes we have accumulated over the years seeing as DH is off work for a few days.

Anyway, DH decided to take the children out for the afternoon, they left around 1pm (after lunch I prepared).

I had a productive afternoon and then DH rang me at around 4, did I want to join them for the all you can eat buffet? I hate the all you can eat buffet plus was in no state to go out in my scruffs and suggested we go out at the weekend instead. DH then admitted he only wanted me there so he could freely go back up to re-fill his plate whilst I sat with the kids.. . So I suggested they come home as it was almost time for dinner. I expected them in around 4.30 but no sign.

6pm DH and children come in and DH is absolutely BEAMING. Apparently he and the kids went to a bbq restaurant and all the staff kept congratulating him on how well he was doing being out with two young children. Seemingly he overheard them talking about what a great guy he was even when there was a shift change.

He went on about how fabulous a father everyone thought he was ALL SODDING NIGHT.

AIBU to think that if it were I dining out with the children (as I have done lots of times) nobody would be patting me on the back simply for being out with my own children?

Honestly so over the top.. I assume DH is exaggerating slightly but I hate the way that it's just expected I cope with 2 but their father deserves a medal for taking both out. Even my mum commented "Eeeh that was good of him taking the bairns out for you!" For me??? He had a lovely day out whilst I did bloody housework!

Sorry turned into a bit of a rant!

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BettyWoo · 19/02/2019 00:06

YANBU at all! My ex used to do sod all for/with our sons unless someone, usually his parents, were watching. Then it was all cooing over what a marvelous dad he was! It really pissed me off and I am totally on your side here!

ScrumpyCrack · 19/02/2019 00:13

so I had planned on spending the day sorting out the mountains of clothes we have accumulated over the years

... so that was your choice. His was to go get dinner with the kids on his day off. What’s the problem?

HeartvsHead · 19/02/2019 00:17

I once caught my OH saying he couldn't meet his friend for a drink as he was babysitting our DD as I was out. Babysitting!? Shes your child too my friend and it is called parenting not babysitting!

Tolleshunt · 19/02/2019 00:18

No wonder you love wine so much, mammy.

YANBU. Proper pisses me off, this.

MissSingerbrains · 19/02/2019 00:20

Why did they go out to eat after having lunch at home and knowing you had dinner at home? That would annoy me too.

iwishiwasasleep · 19/02/2019 00:40

YANBU. DH is congratulated every time he goes anywhere with DC by himself (it's not often) and every time he puts on the washing machine all by himself

Pumpkintopf · 19/02/2019 00:53

YANBU. Fathers getting lauded for coping with being a parent pisses me off too.

Redcampions · 19/02/2019 03:24

I know I am on a night shift tonight and DH is taking DS out for the day. You would think he was sorting out world peace the way my parents, his parents and some of our friends have praised him. One even said “oh isn’t he so good to babysit”!!!! He is not babysitting it’s his bloody child
Luckily DH does not think this way at all.

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