To be annoyed sexual assault case hasn't gone forward at all in 3 months

[Dera1234]

So, to cut a long story short. Best friends BF in sixth form assaulted me twice. Once whilst sleeping and sober, groped my boob. Woke up to him doing it. This was 5 years ago. He met with me and my parents, along with his and admitted it. Along with my DM threatening police which I declined and totally forgave him after a lot of 'i can't sleep, I can't eat'. Fast forward to July last year and my best friend (his ex) messages me to say, that on a night out 4 years ago, she had caught him with his hands down my knickers. I was blind drunk, as he had been buying me drinks all night under the pretence he was still sorry (granted I didn't have to drink them and I shouldn't have forgiven him, but there we are).

Anyhow, police take statements from me, BF and other friend who was there the first time. He had first interview and went no comment to everything. We have screenshots of him admitting it via messages on Facebook.

Since then (interview was 1st Dec) I've only had an email requesting details for my parents' details to get a statement, but they haven't contacted them.

AIBU to be really pissed? When he first came to take a statement all he kept saying was how this is the important stuff they should be dealing with, not the other 99% that of cases that are rubbish.

What should I do? Wait? Badger him? Or complain?

Thanks for any advice!

Anyone?

It is taking so far more than a year to get the case together against my husband's parents. This stuff can take s while. But there should be a point of contact for you to ask about the progress if your case.

If you know who is dealing with it theres no harm in contacting them. They can let you know how its progressing. Un fortunately its not an excessive length of time. Complaining is a bit premature at the moment

Thanks for the advice. Im really not one to badger or kick up a fuss. I was told it would take a while, and was full prepared for that. It just bugs me that they're not doing anything at all. I don't mind if the process takes a while but when they're not doing anything it's annoying. I was told they legally have to keep me informed every four weeks and they've rarely kept to that.

Op if you have contact details of the police officers dealing with your case (did they give you a card with their name and contact info ?) Then contact them and ask how tour case is progressing...there is no harm in asking and it relieves you of the anxiety of wondering what's happening as you will know what is happening

I'm sorry this happened to you well done op for being brave and finding the strength and courage to go to the police to make sure this man knows what he did to you was not ok

I took a historic rape case to court and it took 2 and a half years from first reporting it to coming to court. I think I spoke to people about 4 times total in all that time. In fact the whole thing was a complete fucking joke including them changing the court to one 30 miles away the day before the case and not telling me. It's a shit system I have no advice other than in my experience don't expect anything other than balls ups

Thanks guys. I've emailed him today, so we shall see what he come back with.

In so sorry for what you've been through @Houseonahill. I really hope they got what they deserved.