I have a friend who I’ve known a long time, he was always a larger lad, and his family including his wife are big too (bare with this gets relevant).
About two years ago he saw some pictures of himself on holiday and had an “enough is enough” moment. He went on a diet and took up running which, as I was a keen runner meant we did and still do spend a lot of time running together/travelling to races so we talk a lot.
He has lost a remarkable amount of weight.
In these chats I’ve started to notice some really worrying behaviour/attitudes.
He pretty much now only eats chicken, vegetables and boiled potato, he mentioned how one weekend he had a portion of chips at a meal out and felt so disgusting he had to go and “shower out the grease” as soon as he got home.
He recently on a weekend away (ie two nights) forgot his trainers and was completely distraught his wife was not ok with him driving her car a 60 mile round trip to the nearest running shop to buy a pair just so he could run that weekend. He literally couldn’t see how that could be seen as unreasonable.
Mostly recently he’s started getting really disparaging about all larger people and seems quite phobic or spending time in their company which has led to him making some comments about his family including his wife letting herself go/not trusting her when she’s cooking. He adores her but I think this weird fat phobia has gone completely to his head.
I’m really worried about him and want to address it but am not sure how 