Concerning comment or Aibu?

[Suitcasekid]

Is a parent commenting (seemingly proudly) on a pre teen being physically mature, out of context of the conversation, a concern? Or am I jumping to conclusions?

Depends who said it and I suppose how out of context it was.
You know the details what do you think?

It’s really hard to say, based on what information you’ve provided.

It was the child's father. The discussion had moved partly to what yoy say that goes over kids' heads. Not sure how this relates to puberty and just seemed worrying and I wondered how others might respond.

I think it depends what they actually said, "my daughter has started her period" is a very different statement to "my daughter has a full muff and giant tits".

Apologies. Don't mean to withhold any details, but I can't share them all. There are a few other things that have concerned me really obviously at other times and I wondered whether this was something I was adding to the list and convincing myself.

Why worrying?

Well the child might not realise that they were physically mature themselves, so that would fit in with the 'over their heads' topic. Why would you jump to the conclusion that it's not OK - does make it sound as if you are looking for evidence for something (not the first time I've said this today ...) to fit in with your own beliefs. But we can only go on what you've told us, which is not much to be fair!

Ah cross post - yes, I was right you were looking for evidence. Whether this is reasonable or not is impossible to say.

Can't really say without more information,especially since what you provided was half opinion (seemingly,seemed). On the face of it it could simply be a misjudged comment.

Agree with what other pps said; unless we know exactly what was said, how it was said and in what context, it’s impossible to say. Did you or anyone else call him on it at the time- or look uncomfortable?

From the update did he mean that the child looks older than they are but arent emotionally mature? A bit like when people have high expectations of a child's behaviour when they look about 3 but are actually only just 2?

Did he say she is physically mature for her age? How was it said?

So difficult and frustrating when people come on here asking for advice and only give tiny bits of information that give us nothing to go on

What was said, no way to tell unless we have details really.