Sorry in advance for a selfish post. DH has mental health issues and has dealt very well with some, including addiction, but has an ongoing battle with anxiety and panic attacks. He's in the grip of a huge panic spiral this week and I'm finding it hard to cope. He feels everything is terrible and the world is out to get him, the problem is he keeps trying to include me in this, telling me how awful everything is and how he needs my sympathy and support unconditionally. He also yells at me when he is frustrated, or blames me for making things worse as I'm the only person he talks to or who knows about his problems and I'm the only person he can lash out at. I know I'm supposed to support him. But... I'm finding this so hard. I've done my own counselling and I've been told I need to watch my own MH and this is not helping me. I don't want to be dragged down by him. I have a reasonably good life, the normal stresses and strains but I could cope with them. What I cant' cope with is someone telling me constantly how awful everything is. He won't go to counselling or the GP as he says he's able to cope, it's just life is throwing too much at him at the moment and it's unfair. The last conversation we had, I told him to go to the counselor he used to see and he told me we couldn't afford it, this is baloney, we're not rich but we can certainly spare money for important medical treatment. I feel like he's looking for an excuse. Every time I google MH issues I see how important it is for the partner to be supportive and listen, but I don't think I can any more. I saw that cartoon about the person under the 'depression blanket' and what you're supposed to do is crawl in there under it and hold him.. but I don't want to be under the depression blanket! Is that terribly selfish of me? I keep hearing people saying, if you have MH issues just reach out and talk. But it's not that easy...