AIBU to ask him to contribute?

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Been with him for a year now, and he's just started staying at my house three nights a week, not in a row but he will stay here on a Monday, then again on Thursday and Saturday night. I don't know if I'm being petty, I rarely stay at his. AIBU to ask?

How old are you?

Of course you ask him to contribute.

If you're feeling him and he doesn't offer to buy food or anything for then house then he's a CF.

He should have offered

Do you pay for all the meals? Why don't you stay at his?

I think it depends on what you do there as well.
Do you buy the food and do all the cooking?
Does he doe his washing at yours?
I think if he contributes to shopping, cooking, and tidying then that's probably enough for now.
If not then yes, you need to have a word.

The only extra cost is a shower or bath a day & his food. Could you suggest he brings things to cook for dinner? Or brings some groceries round?

Tricky in terms of bills etc. - you would be there anyway so I doubt there is much extra cost. Bit of a red flag if he never buys food or offers money for it, but I suppose there could be circumstances where this would be okay... can't think of any off the top of my head though...

If you're buying all the food then that's not fair and he should certainly contribute to the weekly shop.

If he 'contributes' doesnt that by default make him a lodger ?

I'd be wary of 'charging' him if you are getting any single person based benefits

Does he have his own place? Why don’t you go there more?

Not sur eid ask him to contribute if he is running his own home as well, but he can stop off and buy ingredients for dinner.

I think you’d BU to ask, unless there’s some other massive drip feed about how he’s massively financially benefitting from stay with you.

not exactly sure what your asking her, but if its a case of within a relationship with someone, and they just now spend three nights at yours and you think they should contribute to your bills, then I think YABVU, if your not happy with it then go spend more time at his, if its a case of the three evenings you spend together a week you are responsible for all plans, dinner, drinks etc, then its not unreasonable to say you're in charge of dinner on Thursday, or you can bring me out Saturday. There has to be give and take , you run out of coffee and he'll be over later fine to say pick up coffee on the way, but really it just sounds like you want to move things on further than they have moved it doesn't sounds like your sharing a household as yet, so no you shouldn't be sharing household bills.

What is it you want him to contribute to? If you're feeding him 3 days a week then it's fair enough he should chip in for the food for those days. If you want money for bills/rent etc. then I would say YABU.