To think there must be an alternative to women's aid?

[CarlosCarlos]

I recently left my partner with lots of emotional support from a wonderful woman at women's aid.

I am feeling exceptionally guilty and confused over leaving. My ex is telling me how much he will change and seems genuine. Initially I felt like I was going to go back, and that I wanted to give him a chance. Now I've taken a step back however I am realising that regardless of any abuse or mistreatment, we aren't right for each other.

Our son is tiny, and I'm worried a great deal about how contact would work.

I tried calling women's aid as I was scared I was going to be guilted in to going back but the woman told me they aren't really there for emotional support. She gave me a number for a charity in my area to call but it doesn't exist anymore.

Is there anywhere anyone can think of that can help guide me through this? I'm so weak and not a very strong person. I am the type that will give in to guilt as it is easier that way in the short term. I know I would regret it.

Can anyone offer any alternatives?

Try googling IDVA (Independent Domestic Abuse Service)service in your local area. A lot of areas have these- commissioned by your local authority. They often have more local knowledge of other support services near to you. Good luck OP.

Sorry to hear what you are going through, it is a particularly tricky time.

Do you think you might be a candidate for the freedom programme either in person or online?

You are doing brilliantly, leaving is not easy.

Have you contacted Refuge? 0808 2000 247, www.refuge.org.uk/ They have community based support, which you can ask about if you call

Or Victim Support, who have IDVA's as someone mentioned above. www.victimsupport.org.uk/more-us/why-choose-us/specialist-services/domestic-violence-services

You're braver than you think. Big hugs xxxxxxxx