It's my birthday.

[sweetpeach91]

I've woken up this morning and my boyfriend has said nothing to me. Literally nothing- he woke up, had a coffee, gone to the bathroom and now taken the dog out.

It's my 20th birthday and we've been together 2 years, lived together full time for over 1.

We went to my parents last night for a birthday dinner/cards/presents and he seemed happy but afterwards we watched tv and I ended up going to bed at around 1, he stayed up till 3 then fell asleep on the sofa!

AIBU to expect 1 happy birthday from him? Or even a joking acknowledgment of it?

(He gave me my bday present and really nice card with my valentines stuff on the 14th by the way so I'm not expecting anything today).

Just makes me feel a bit shit I suppose!

Maybe he's in a bad mood, I know he doesn't like occasions much but he made a lot of effort on Valentine's Day which was amazing.

That is shit, takes literally zero effort to give someone a hug and say happy birthday!

🎶 happy birthday to you,
🎶 happy birthday to you,
🎶 happy birthday dear Sweatpach91 !!!!
🎶 happy birthday to you !!!! 🎉🎂

Sorry your name sent spellcheck into overdrive !!

Happy birthday!
Sorry you’re sad. Some people are just rubbish at birthdays and he probably hasn’t even thought of it. You celebrated last night as far as he’s concerned (wrong in my opinion 😀). Don’t ruin you own day by being sad, just tell him you would have appreciated him saying happy birthday when you woke up. Have you got anything nice planned today?

Happy Birthday! 🎂🍰🍾

happy birthday to you

@HumptyNumptyNooNoo hahaha Sweetpach19 love it!! That's made me smile😆

@LilaJude that's what I was thinking😕 I mean I know he's not great in the mornings but on every other day he speaks to me/we have a cuddle.

Why today of all days? (He was really moody last night too when I needed help making the bed, he hates when I do it alone as I can't do it as well as him so he ends up doing it all over again- heavy duvet/big bed etc).

I dunno, it's just the literal NO words this morning that's bothering me😶

I asked him did he want a coffee (hadn't realised he already made one) and he didn't even answer that..

We have some words!

'What's up with you?'

Revolutionary. 🙄

@RosemarysBush thank you! You're probably right, maybe he thinks I'm expecting another present or something so is being quiet? (I'm not!)

Yes, I'm meeting my mum, nan and potentially little brother and we're going to the cinema this afternoon😊

I wish I was doing something with my partner today but he's working all day.

@labazsisgoingmad & @doodlejump1980 thank you!😄 appreciate it :)

Happy Birthday :)

You celebrated last night as far as he’s concerned

I'd be inclined to agree with this, certainly doesn't excuse not saying Happy Birthday this morning though.

Give him a chance though, you never know, there may be a surprise waiting for you as some point today (don't let me get your hopes up though, maybe he's just rubbish with birthdays).

Have a good one anyway.

Happy birthday, it’s my birthday too!! I think we get a bit screwed by being so close to Valentines tbh - they’ve already done cards and presents recently (and last night for you too!) so maybe mentally is crossed off the to-do list already.

@PBo83 thank you, maybe you're right- I'm certainly not expecting anything though!

I'm kind of hoping I'll come home later to some flowers maybe? I don't know, he has the money (not loads but spare cash & works from home). Flowers mean a lot more to me than a bigger present anyway as they're very romantic to me.

He can be super romantic, candles, makes me dinner etc randomly (which always feels amazing as I'm the one that always cooks- because I'm a control freak)

Maybe I'm being weird about it because 20 is a big one to me, no longer a teen and all that.

I planned a whole day out for his birthday last year for us both in the summer (Thorpe Park) and he wanted to leave before 4pm😅 that didn't feel too appreciated.
(And he was on work calls/emails the whole time we were queueing🙁)

@milienhaus HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Birthday twins😉 yeah maybe it's like Christmas birthdays, just not made a big deal.

The thing that bugs me is he knows how excited I've been for it (I love occasions) and myself I love giving card and a thoughtful gift. Really look forward to making someone's day special if they're special to me.

Still no happy birthday on this end..

Ugh I feel like I sound like a brat, I'm sorry.

I'm really not expecting any gifts or anything (like I said he did it on Valentines- some pj's and £50 towards a new laptop I need) but some flowers and a hug would have been appreciated. Or even some breakfast?

Maybe he does have something planned? He's really generous usually, I'm honestly most upset about not being acknowledged this morning.😓(coupled with his awful mood last night before bed)

He's 35 by the way, so not some lazy 20 year old boy whose not 100% in the relationship!

Did or could something have happened at your parents last night to upset him? Maybe he's trying not to say anything about it? How was he when you got back home?

Erm, don't get mad just yet. I am great at remembering dates aaaalllll the days before the date and aaalllll the days after. I have many times woken up on The Date and just been all consumed by morning routines, only to hours later at work realising what day it is. My husband just shakes his head. Once when we were young and poorer we were on a frugal holiday and he splurged on a small bottle of champagne for our evening meal. I was all what's that for? and he just looked at me. "It's our wedding anniversary" he goes. I've never lived it down.

@BlueMerchant no he was great at my parents, laughing and joking with my cousin and brother (they like to all get together and take the piss out of me, standard boys🙄😂 I don't mind as long as he gets along with my family!)

When we came home we watched TV and he was affectionate and chatty (Rich kids go skint lol).
It was when I said I was going to get ready for bed he got all quiet, I asked if he was coming along and he said he was staying up?

I put all the washing away and new washing out, I just needed help with making the bed.

@banivani oh no!😅 second hand embarrassment for you there- maybe set an iPhone reminder?😂 or 50?😄

Happy Birthday Sweetpeach91 and milienhaus ! It's my birthday too, and I agree - in the past it has been kind of rolled in to Valentine's Day, although after 25 years together DH gets it now that it's my birthday, which is separate from Valentine's Day, and I would like a bit of effort made!

See, I even forgot to say Happy Birthday to you. I'm better now but I still don't remember things well enough in advance to organise anything.