Friend told people I'm gay ..i told her in confidence aibu to be hurt?

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I've always dated men.
My friend was trying to set me up and I confided in her that I had started casually dating a woman but I wasn't sure what it was and what it meant.
I told her not to say anything as it was new to me and I wasn't comfortable yet.
Friday night she went out with another close friend (who I love and she's one of my best friends but I never told because I was unsure and didn't want to make a big deal of it)
Anyway she told her I was gay and been dating her for months and she rang me upset I couldn't share it with her.
I truly apologised to her and said it wasn't because I didn't value our friendship and I love her but I was confused feeling things I had never felt before.
I'm so angry at my other friend I feel like she's broken my trust.
Aibu ?

People probably will gossip BUT you don't have to explain yourself. Can you see it's absolutely nobody else's business and it doesn't matter what they say? You should NEVER have been put in this position and you've done nothing wrong. If anything is said just come back on here and chat to us, we will help you through it. X

Poor you. Your friend should not have told anyone. She has let you down. I hope this all blows over soon OP x

I wouldn't be friends with Friend 1 any longer. She has betrayed your trust and, clearly, cannot be trusted in the future.

Thanks everyone
I just feel a bit sad tonight
Friend 2 is ok now and texting like normal,she told me she didn't care who I like and that she once thought she might be gay and has kissed a woman before too.
Friend 1 is texting a lot obviously paranoid that I know.
Lots of things coming up with friend 1 too and at the minute can't stand her.
Who else has she told I wonder.

Gobby cow. Why couldn't she keep her mouth shut? It's not for her to out you. Are you going to bollock her?

Oh you poor thing! The first big "outing" is horrendous. I took such a bad panic attack when I realised half the village knew I was dating a women an ambulance was called for my 'asthma attack' . It gets better - I really, really promise you'll get to the stage of not caring at all that you're gay (or bi).

I just feel so vulnerable with people knowing my business.
It won't just be friend no 2 that knows
It will have gone further than that.
I really like the woman I'm seeing tho so stuff it all.
She makes me smile.
I'm not ashamed of her,it's just people scare me.
I'm worried people will look at me differently.

Text both of them and tell them how hurt you are that their first thoughts were not for you and your privacy.

Tell friend 1 she has utterly betrayed your trust and you want some space from her. Then block her, if necessary

Tell remind 2 that you are upset that her first thought was for herself and to further share what was obviously private information that her OH had no need to know. That and her "I kissed a girl and I like it" spiel is insulting!

Give them a quick reprimand, you don't have to be ever so careful fo their feelings. Tey weren't careful of yors. Don't tie yourself in kots over this. They were both unreasonable!