To go out and leave him to it? (Dinner related)

[GirlOnIt]

This is meant lightheartedly, because I do know he's really trying.
Dp has offered to cook Sunday lunch, he's invited my mum and her partner and his parents and brother. All lovely, except Dp has never cooked Sunday lunch and so far he's asked what time he should start it, will I help him do the Yorkshire puddings, how does he make sure it's all ready together. He's gone to the shops and phoned three times to ask what he should get.

I did suggest he just cook something he's done before, he is a really good cook. But he wants a roast dinner.
I just know I'm going to end up doing it myself helping and I don't want to.
I'm thinking once he's back with Ds I go out and just come back when it's ready.
His exact words were you don't have to do anything, I'll do all the shopping, prep, cooking and cleaning up. So I'm not being unreasonable am I?

But he did once make me Yorkshire puddings when I was pregnant and craving them and they were gross. I don't even know how he could get them so wrong. I don't want him serving inedible food to our families.

I think you should take your ds out so he's not under his feet while he's creating this masterpiece.

2 choices.
Help him and let him take the credit - the reli's will treat him like Gino forever more, or leave him to it and face the wrath of not helping.
Sorry but you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

Go out for a nice walk. Nip to the supermarket on the way back and buy the good ready made fresh Yorkshire just in case.

Tell him to get pre-made Yorkshires'. And, yes, make yourself scarce.

Can't he just look up recipes for anything he hasn't done before? If he can cook I don't see what the problem is. Unless he wants you to stay and help you can go out if you want.
Yorkshire puds sometimes just go wrong, even for really experienced cooks. Mary Berry's recipe is pretty reliable but it has a lot to do with oven temperature.

Leave him to it. It would take him 30 seconds to Google a basic roast dinner recipe and schedule. Why doesn't he do that instead of coming running to you with multiple questions?

Tell him to buy aunt Bessie's puddings and go out.

This is a lesson he can learn how to Google.

And does anyone have a fool proof Yorkshire pudding recipe? Because I just do them like my gran taught me, don't even weigh my ingredients properly. Dp tried my way and it just didn't work for him. His mum buys hers from M&S, which I suggested to Dp, but he wants to make them (but asked for help).

He has googled. He's wrote himself a schedule out, for his times and everything.
Because I usually do it and quite effortlessly, he keeps asking is this what time you'd do it too etc. Thing is I don't plan it or follow a recipe, I don't think it works like that.

He's good at cooking something that's all ready at the same time. Usually curry, chilli that kind of thing.

Just bite the bullet, be nice and help him

it's a simple batter recipe but the key is putting the oil in the tins and putting them in the oven early so they're really hot before you put the batter in.

I've told him that Di11y. But I just know if the batter seems right before I do them. Same with the oil in the pan, he wants/needs specific times but I don't cook like that, I just go with if it looks ready. So I know I'm going to get "does this look ready to you?" For everything.

Chef ds says:
Weigh 3/4 eggs.
Same weight in plain flour +milk.
Hot oil. Cook about 15 mins.

www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/254754415

Here's a fail safe yorkshire pudding recipe

Yeah, go out. Tell him it's so you're keeping DS out of his hair and so you don't accidentally interfere - "nothing worse than someone telling you what to do all the time!" said with a cheery air.

Do you want to eat edible food, or do you want to make a point? tricky one.

Maybe offer to do the yorkies yourself - I think he's realised your apparently effortless production of perfect puds masks a combination of genius, experience and hard graft - but leave the rest to him as basically it's a timing exercise that he can work out from books/google.

His exact words were you don't have to do anything, I'll do all the shopping, prep, cooking and cleaning up. So I'm not being unreasonable am I?

No, you're not. Leave him to it. He's a good cook, he'll get by.

Hand him the Yorkshire pud recipe and then leave.

OP, are you married to my DH? This is exactly what he does. Endless calls from the supermarket, constant questions about how to do things. Huge mess in the kitchen and usually the necessity of him relaxing for the rest of the day because it was all so stressful. He suggested cooking Sunday lunch last weekend. I managed to persuade him to go out for lunch instead!

I have a foolproof Yorkshire recipe, mine are perfect every time.

1. Go to Tescos, buy Aunt Bessies (she really knows what she is doing) 2. Follow the instructions on the pack

(Sorry - lighthearted! - but it's all we do here)

He’ll learn more if he has to figure it out himself. This is a bit like learning to swim by jumping in the deep end! But at the end of the day is it such a disaster if he serves a less than great meal? Leave him to it and don’t be surprised if it goes right and be supportive if it doesn’t. It’s a great skill for him to develop (gives you a break!) his way (not just carbon copying your way) IYSWIM.

Go out and leave him to it. Idiotic thing to do, inviting everyone round when he's actually v stressed about it and not planned it out.

Either it will be a masterpiece and he can cook more often or he'll not plan such an extravaganza again and learn like normal people by trying things out when it isn't a big deal.

I learned from here. My Mum says that proper Yorkies need to be cooked in meat fat though.

www.seriouseats.com/2015/12/food-lab-yorkshire-pudding-popover-best-method-science.html

I do get a better result from bread flour.

Yes, leave him to it. Some things will be edible - even if others aren't perfect, or there's a bit of waiting around.

I'm sure there's stuff you can nibble on if dinner is late, and stuff you can fill up on afterwards in the unlikely event that some parts of the roast dinner are inedible.

Let us know how it goes...

Its not making a point Purple. If I wanted to cook Sunday lunch for family I'd have offered (and do so fairly regularly). He's offered because he wants to go it. I do think he needs to find his way of doing it and not try my way.

Dp's mum or dad don't really cook, they tend to be sauce from a jar people. Which my Mil admits she's just not fussed for cooking she does the easiest option.
So to be fair to him he's taught himself with that he does, so should be able to figure it out. I hope 🤞🏻

Just leave him to it. I doubt you'd get a man fussing over a woman like this.