Friend has a new boyfriend....

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caroline161 · 16/02/2019 19:11

They've been together 6 weeks....she does all he can to shoe horn him into every single conversation, says she loves him. He says he loves her. But I'm alarmed , not by anything in particular but just got a bad feeling which I think is triggered by the love bombing that he's doing. I haven't met him maybe I would feel better if I did. But is it possible to love someone after 6 weeks or will he turn out to be an arse like every other man I've ever known who has behaved like this in the first 6 weeks! Make me feel better, my friend is lovely and don't want her to be hurt

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lostfrequencies · 16/02/2019 19:14

As you haven't met him I'm not sure you can form a judgement really. How does your friend feel about him saying he loves her?

HowlsMovingBungalow · 16/02/2019 19:16

Heady days of the rose tinted glasses.

DontCallMeCharlotte · 16/02/2019 19:19

DH proposed after four weeks (20 years ago) so yes he could be genuine.

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caroline161 · 16/02/2019 19:19

She loves it all, completely sucked in by it!

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Renster · 16/02/2019 19:23

I realised I loved my husband after one week 😍

lostfrequencies · 16/02/2019 19:24

Oh wait I missed the bit at the start where you mentioned she says she loves him, sorry. I'm not sure why you're worried? It sounds like you're more annoyed that she's "shoehorning him into every single conversation". It's just the early loved up days. I miss them!

Lizzie48 · 16/02/2019 19:36

It really depends, every relationship is different! My DH asked me to marry him 2 months after we'd met (though we'd emailed each other for a month before that) and we got married 8 months after that. Now we're about to celebrate our 16th wedding anniversary.

OTOH, my DSis's ex was very intense very quickly and they got married a year after they'd met. He was abusive towards her. Her second marriage happened quickly and they're very happy after 11 years of marriage.

So basically it's impossible for us to say whether this man is good for your friend. An open mind is what's needed, and obviously to be supportive towards your friend.

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caroline161 · 16/02/2019 19:40

It's hard work, when every sentence has his name in it. Either in conversation or text. I'm worried because I don't think he's genuine. It comes from my own personal experience of charmers who find it very easy to turn the charm on with someone else. I'm always on red alert with overly romantic men. In my experience this has never ended well for me!

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Bambamber · 16/02/2019 19:40

They may genuinely have fallen in love already, I believe that people can fall in love very quickly. I fell in love with my husband very quickly, certainly wouldn't tell him that though!

Maybe his friends have the same concerns about her love bombing him and think it's a red flag about her and that she may be an arse. Who knows, maybe they are as bad as each other?

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