To keep my wages to save for my course

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I work twice a week in a club where I worked before getting pregnant and my wages aren’t much really ,my partner didn’t even want me to work there he’d rather me just stay and look after the kids but I really want to do this course ,I’ve been saving my wages so that I can do the course and become a fully trained lash and nail tech so I can work my own hours around my kids and my sister has a nail table in her salon she said I can use so it’s a sure starter ,He says I need to contribute to bills and I know I do but I don’t understand why I can’t do this after I’ve paid for my course ,Were not struggling with money at all he’s self employed and we’re always on top of bills and he goes out a lot to places like York for the day out drinking etc so I really feel it’s unfair that he says he needs my money for the bills ,I haven’t said no I’m not helping with bills and I do want too so it’s not like “this is my money I want it” I can’t make money off of what I’m actually qualified to do anymore so I don’t see why it’s better for me to keep picking up these shifts working awful hours than to start my own business too. Should I just wait until I can work full time to save or should he allow me these few months to pay for this ,It’ll work better for us in the future. We’ve not had the conversation yet I’ve really only briefly mentioned what I want the money for but I wanna know what people think before I go in with it I really don’t wanna be selfish or anything

Can you write up a business plan and then talk with him about it?
List all costs - course, rent, stock, other qualifications, business registration fees etc. How much will you need to start up?

Do the courses run year round, or only termly?
Agree with him a realistic date for you to start the business, and work out if you can maybe contribute £100 to joint bills while you save the rest towards your business.
Also, Will your sis wait for you to get the qualification, or does she need someone to take on the table to generate income for her salon?

And if the table isn’t rented out in the meantime then (assuming I have read right and that is the only nail table in a hairdressers salon) any nail customer loyalty to there will have gone so you will be newly qualified with no client base which will inevitably impact your earnings.

Some good questions but some negativity!!

I think it sounds like a good investment and one that you can on the surface, afford as a family.

Good luck OP!!

Thanks for all the questions but I’ve really thought a lot about all of that and it’s not what I posted asking about ,Thanks for the replies I really just wanted to know if it was a really cheeky thing to do or if I should just propose the idea really :)

You should contribute to the bills. He should contribute to the cost of your course. It shouldn't be that complicated.

I asked him and he said he would just pay for it when the time come but I told him I’d rather just save myself and he’s fine with it so it’s okay I just wanted to know if that was a really cheeky thing to do lol

Reasonable to ask I think

You seem to have stuff worked out and can demonstrate a timeline.

Even if you saved 3 weeks worth per month and paid the 4th week into bills you'd still be at 500 pretty quickly so it's possible to do both without too much impact to timescale

but she is presumably doing the majority of the childcare, that is ‘paying’ for things as it is enabling him to go out and earn money rather than stay at home and watch his child.

Lucky guy, being 'enabled' to go to work and be the sole breadwinner. Sorry, but that is a pretty unhealthy way to view things. You should be a team both putting the effort in to support your family.

OP, you are a family and you should be supporting each other. The money both of you earn is to support the family and that includes bills and supporting family members to improve their skills, etc.