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Help! I don't know what to do!

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reddaffodil · 16/02/2019 02:34

I'm currently in my second year of a 4 year zoology degree at uni. I just discovered I'm pregnant. I don't need emotional support. My boyfriend and I have discussed this before and will again tomorrow but I'm 99% sure what I'm going to. I'm here asking for practical advice, please. What do I do? Who do I see? How long do I wait to see a GP (or midwife)? etc

TIA for the support and advice. I'm going to try to sleep and check back in the morning.

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Smotheroffive · 16/02/2019 02:40

Just let your gp know you are pregnant, the rest will be done, you will be sent a booking appt with a midwife in due course.

No drama, if this is what you both want nothing really happens early on,, just take the proper supplements and wait for your booking appt. The MW will tell you the rest.

BlackCatSleeping · 16/02/2019 03:03

I'm a little confused by your post. Do you want to keep the pregnancy or not?

TheSerenDipitY · 16/02/2019 05:09

go to the doctors for a test, once it comes back positive they will discuss your options, if you want to keep the baby they will refer you to the midwives, if you are unsure they will give you the options and advise taking of vitamins in case you choose to carry on, if you decide to abort then you can tell them and they will start the process for you and remember if you choose to not carry on with the pregnancy there is no shame in that

thefirst48 · 16/02/2019 06:16

You can ring an abortion clinic yourself if you don't want to keep the baby.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 16/02/2019 06:18

It doesn't say if you're keeping it or not?

youbethemummylion · 16/02/2019 06:18

We cant give you practical advice as you havent told us what you want to do.

CoolJule43 · 16/02/2019 07:54

The OP mentioned a midwife so I presume this means she wants the pregnancy to continue.

RolandDeschainsGilly · 16/02/2019 08:02

Personal tutor at Uni so they can put appropriate support in place.

Give Student Finance a call to discuss Childcare Grant. They cover 85% of fees. Your Uni May have funds to cover the other 85%.

Original poster
reddaffodil · 16/02/2019 16:36

Hi everyone, thanks for the replies.

I don’t want to say what I want to do until I have had a final discussion with my boyfriend so that neither of our minds are swayed by outside influences.

I will ring my gp and book an appointment. In the mean time I think I won’t tell anyone until we’ve for sure decided what we’re going to do.

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PerfectlyPetty · 16/02/2019 16:48

go to the doctors for a test, once it comes back positive they will discuss your options

That doesn’t really happen though Confused

Four pregnancies and four different Doctors and all have said they don’t test - why would they? No one I know has ever been tested at the Dr’s.

The only reason to go see the GP is if you have existing health problems or if you want an abortion. Otherwise, call your surgery and ask for the midwife.

Tomtontom · 16/02/2019 16:53

@reddaffodil You need to check what the process is in your area. If you are keeping the baby you often don't need to see the GP and can self refer to the midwife service. Ring the surgery and they'll tell you if you need to see anyone.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 16/02/2019 16:54

I don't understand why you're seeing your GP?

youbethemummylion · 16/02/2019 17:03

I don’t want to say what I want to do until I have had a final discussion with my boyfriend

As the practical side of things will be completely different depending on what you want to do it may be best to make a decision then ask for advice.

Smotheroffive · 16/02/2019 17:16

No-one sees their GP to know that they're pregnant, OP knows she's pregnant, she's done a test, that's what everyone does! You just need to ring in and get it recorded it will all then be followed up and appts booked, advice/leaflets given.

Specialist abortion advice go to the clinic, they are the experts and will support you through whichever process you follow if that's what you decide.

It's your decision though, your partner can't make that decision for you either way as it is your body that's pregnant. That's important to know and keep in mind that no matter what anyone externally says, you can normally know instantly whether abortion is something you can consider for yourself or not,for this pregnancy. Each may be different. Take you time to consider your feelings fully in this and the possible effects on you. It will be happening to you and no-one else will feel the same.

Smotheroffive · 16/02/2019 17:17

Is the course relevant in some way,that you have been specific about it? Does it influence your choices at all?

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