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To wish to be single because of he's snoring?

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toomuchtoolittle · 15/02/2019 20:17

I love my husband very much but he's snoring has me having irrational thoughts at 2am wishing I was single and how good sleeping alone must feel☺️

I can't be alone with having these kind of thoughts?

What does your partner do that you find hard to live with?

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babybabybaby1 · 15/02/2019 20:20

I know that feeling Grin although it's not snoring with my DH it's his bloody breathing. I find myself wishing he would actually stop breathing. It's irrational thoughts because of the time, this wouldn't bother us normally during the day

redandyellowandpinkandgreen99 · 15/02/2019 20:21

Do you have a spare bedroom?

mimibunz · 15/02/2019 20:22

Some nights I have my husband snoring next to me and my cat snoring somewhere else in our small house. I can hear them both. Confused

BanginChoons · 15/02/2019 20:23

I can't comment on the snoring, but yanbu to wish you were single. I love being single.

NotHeightyButMighty · 15/02/2019 20:23

Isn't there a small operation to help relieve snoring?!

moomin4071 · 15/02/2019 20:26

My OH takes up too much space in the bed and I can't position myself to sleep properly, which leads me to be awake for what seems like FOREVER! I can empathise with the irrational thoughts

LoniceraJaponica · 15/02/2019 20:26

He needs to see his GP. OH's snoring got progressively worse and developed into sleep apnoea. He now has a CPAP machine, and I get a decent night's sleep.

Neverender · 15/02/2019 20:26

Snoring and teeth grinding...oh my god.

MiniMum97 · 15/02/2019 20:26

This is the reason my husband and I sleep in separate rooms - both because of snoring and breathing. Why he breathes like he has just run a marathon when he is lying still in bed is beyond me. I am also an insomniac and he falls asleep as soo as his head hits the pillow.

Separate rooms have saved our marriage (and him from being murdered and me spending the rest of my life in prison). Although I reckon I could get off jail time because of mitigating circumstances! 😬

Qcng · 15/02/2019 20:28

OK, I mean this in all seriousness, you need to do something if you are experiencing sleep deprivation due to your DH snoring it's actually a serious issue.

Don't be like my mum. She never said a WORD to my dad even though we could hear his snoring from our bedrooms with all our doors closed.

I used to wonder why I left for school every morning without seeing her at all, and why she wouldn't get out of bed until midday, until I realised she didn't sleep a wink until my dad got up in the morning because of his loud snoring, and she never said a word! I don't know why she didn't sleep in another room or something. She suffered terribly and I had a mum half absent from sleep deprivation. It's a true story!

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toomuchtoolittle · 15/02/2019 20:33

Phew glad I'm not alone 😓😂

No spare room I'm afraid. I've had to either escape downstairs or jump in with my teenager 🙈

I think he has sleep apnea because he stops breathing in he's sleep, I lay there for hours listening to him almost choke in he's sleep! It's awful and he's made a doctors appointment.

He also breaths very heavily and that drives me insane too 🤯

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dementedpixie · 15/02/2019 20:36

If he does get diagnosed with sleep apnoea then he may get a CPAP machine with mask. It has totally stopped dh's snoring

UserUser123 · 15/02/2019 20:37

I often have the same thoughts because of DP’s breathing too! I’m 34 weeks preg just now so try and sleep on my left side, he always turns around and faces in my direction. Every time he breathes out it feels like a full scale fucking gust in my face!! Drives me utterly insane!

He doesn’t snore often but when he does, by god does he snore!!

I def think the clue to a long and happy marriage is separate rooms!

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toomuchtoolittle · 15/02/2019 20:39

@Qcng oh don't worry I scream and kick him all night 😂 he knows it drives me mad and at weekends he lets me sleep in and gets up with the kids.

Sometimes at night when he falls asleep on the sofa I creep past him and go to bed,to get to sleep before he comes up. I know that sounds mean but if I'm asleep before him I can sleep through the snoring when he does eventually get to bed. Which is normally about 3/4 am 🙈

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toomuchtoolittle · 15/02/2019 20:41

@UserUser123 I hate hate hate dh breathing in my face at night! I often sleep down the other end of the bed sometimes because of this!

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CottonSock · 15/02/2019 20:44

Get a sofa bed, you don't need to live like this.

Degustibusnonestdisputandem1 · 15/02/2019 20:45

Oh my god yes, teeth grinding and snoring leave me feeling stabby!! As much as I love DH, i wonder whether the aristocracy had it right with separate bedrooms!

LoniceraJaponica · 15/02/2019 20:46

"I think he has sleep apnea because he stops breathing in he's sleep"

In that case he absolutely must see the GP.

Degustibusnonestdisputandem1 · 15/02/2019 20:47

I have ASD and cannot stand noise when trying to sleep... I can hear the teeth grinding despite wearing earplugs and the snoring reverberates through the mattress 🤬🤬🤬

explodingkitten · 15/02/2019 20:50

I sleep on the sofa bed in the living room. We actually bought a good one and it's more confortable than the box spring! In our new house there will be seperate bedrooms.

Sleeping alone makes us better rested, relaxed, more happy and is therefore really good for our marriage. Of course we're both always welcome to visit the other one for a cuddle in the evening or morning Grin.

MeganJPerry · 15/02/2019 20:50

Just stick a tube of amonia next to his snout, that will stop him!

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toomuchtoolittle · 15/02/2019 21:01

I've thought about a sofa bed for some time, i think it's the only option.

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amusedbush · 15/02/2019 21:15

DH and I sleep separately because he snores, snuffles and talks all night. We tried a superking with a duvet each and that solved the issue of him stealing the covers and whacking me with his elbows (he’s very tall and it was like sleeping next to a fucking windmill when he moved his arms and legs) but not the noise. I have chronic insomnia so I just couldn’t bear it any longer.

katseyes7 · 15/02/2019 21:21

My ex husband was like this. lt was horrific. Like somebody drilling holes in a wall next to me. Even two bedrooms away with both doors shut, l could still hear him, but it was much more tolerable.
We were once on holiday and l was crying at 3am because l hadn't slept for two nights because of him.
l'd go for separate rooms. My best friend is apparently an horrific snorer, and they sleep in separate rooms. They have a lovely close relationship, all the better for them both getting a decent night's rest.

lotusbell · 15/02/2019 21:27

My bed for the past 2 years has been a fold out bed in my son's room as my OH snores very loudly. It's not ideal and I can't do it forever. We have a 3rd room but it's his daughters and I don't feel right using her room while she's not here. Before this, he had the sofa for 2 years in our old house. He's a big guy and bordering on sleep apnoea. He's had the machine but found he couldn't keep the mask on through the night. I wish he'd persevered with it. I've tried to get used to it but just can't, it's awful. Can't see a way forward so I truly sympathise!

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