To be irrationally annoyed (parking one, sort of)

[IrrationallyAnnoyed]

NC as photo totally outing!

We've had some minor building work on our house (3 days worth) and to make life easier for the builders, we moved the car off our drive. It's not a massive drive, so we parked on the road.

Come out this evening to move the car back now work is finished and find the attached note. It was only today we parked in this spot so AIBU to be irrationally annoyed to receive it?!

For context, neighbour (adjacent) is probably house bound or at the least limited mobility. I do get his point but a) we only parked here today b) it's surburbia (!) the view if of the house opposite rather than rolling countryside and c) we're close to the train station so commuters regularly use the road as free parking (I.e, this often happens).

Also WWYD? I'm not going to send a angry reply to said neighbour, they're elderly and it's unnecessary. But would you explain or just ignore?! I'm torn.

*sort of lighthearted, I will probably keep the note for comedy value to show friends

It's not worth getting into discussions with someone with this mindset. We once lived in a suburban village and I could well imagine this happening there. I would just be grateful I had more in my life than they did and ignore. ( I would dream about sticking posters to my car however)

I’d have to speak to him and say unfortunately he doesn’t own the road and people will park there: it’s perfectly legal.

If he's housebound, how did he affix the note to the car?

Presumably he has a carer.

@IrrationallyAnnoyed I CANT STAND these types of people!! We live in a terrace new build with a car park at the side then at the side of that is the end of our road (dead end) which is square shape and people use as a turn around. Someone parked there van on the edge next to our car park, and someone left a note on the van saying 'THIS IS A TURN AROUND AREA!! YOU HAVE A DOUBLE DRIVE WAY.... USE IT!!!' I took the note of for the person and ripped it up as they has newborn twins and needed the space to get there seats in and out of the car!! No ones house was even next to were the van was parking and the turn around area is huge even with the van there... we figured out it was the FREAK who lives BEHIND US (has no need to use this part of the road) He also put cones there once!!! And he puts signs up on lamp posts that say CCTV and when someone ripped them of HE SILICONED THEM BACK UP 😁

You think your neighbour is crazy...

Your neighbour is nuts. But probably also very lonely.

We had a neighbour who complained about our similar parking. We only have parking for one car on the drive and rent so can't change the front (we asked).

Neighbour complained via a friend - who knocked on our door as neighbour was worried about our reaction - that they couldn't see out of their window when we parked there and their daily visitors couldn't park there (despite an empty drive to the side of the house).

We compromised and parked dh's car on the road as much as possible instead of my, much higher, MPV and varied where we parked at times as although other parking places are not as convenient with regards to driveways and access roads, we felt we needed to show willing.

What we very quickly worked out was we had an elderly and lonely neighbour. They had Carers in daily and district nurses in several times a week. The friend popped in regularly but only lived a few doors up and a son visited very, very occasionally.

It wasn't until 2 days before neighbour moved that we learned they also had a daughter and toddler/young grandchildren. In over a year we had never seen or heard any other visitors to the house and yet neighbour was going to be moving in with daughter and grandchildren.

I'd like to think I hadn't ever noticed them visit because I hadn't been at home. But as I'm a sahm and home most of the time, it's more likely I guess that distance prevented them visiting.

Looking at the photo again, I'm struggling to understand what view you're blocking anyway. Maybe warn the lady across the road that he might be a peeping tom.

Plan B, deliberately misunderstand what he's upset about and cut his tree down.

Spray paint "Hi Adam" on the side of your car and leave it there.

He's bonkers, but I would just be the bigger person & ignore it.

Especially as you're going back to normal parking on your drive now.

I honestly think... I'd knock on the door & hope that we had a friendly convo & explain yes it may happen again but I'll keep in mind that it's not his favourite view so try not to, but point out there may be nowhere else to park or nowhere that isn't equally inconvenient to someone else, anyway.

On likely chance it's a lonely person who needs a chat & it's no stress to me to give him some positive human contact.

Not saying you'd be doing wrong to do different. But yeah, that note would trigger my compassion gene.

I would park it facing the other way, pop a note in to him with a photo anointed "better?"

Blocking his view of the people in the house opposite......

I'd ignore it - especially as you're going to be able to park on your own drive again.

April, an annual new front door? Nice. I'm still bemused how she can have a car park as part of her land and not rent spaces out or make it a park or something.

So I've now seen Adam walk out of his house and drive away in his car. I've never paid attention before. He can't be more than in his 70s. Must be his wife who is housebound.

Will stop feeling bad. He can get out and about, just chooses not to.