So, long story, been married 3 years to DH been together 14 years. I’m 48 he’s 44. We have 3 girls, 5, 10 & 18. He moved out last April because we weren’t communicating, didn’t really like one another much, he was out most nights until 2am/3am with no explanation, etc plus he thought it easier to run away than stay to sort it out! He moved into a flat a couple of miles away. Basically we carried on seeing one another, having sex regularly, trying to sort things out but it dragged on and on, then he got massively depressed, so bad he wanted to kill himself before Christmas etc, saw the mental health crisis team etc and Dr, was there for him through all of this. His underlying issue is that he’s an alcoholic, has been for 25+ years and more recently it’s been a huge problem! Now about 5 days before Christmas he took 62 amitryptaline tablets after drinking wine & lager, realised what he’d done and rang an ambulance! Spent the next day in a&e and edu. Was discharge that afternoon (I was with him there). He saw the crisis team and the alcohol team but can’t remember what was said. He was also referred for counselling! Then Christmas Eve I find out he slept with a barmaid once back in July, the same barmaid i had been accusing him of seeing for about 3 months but blatantly lying to my face! So we had huge fall out, he was dirty, would do anything to save marriage etc etc! I didn’t want a divorce particularly and was willing to work out stuff and go to marriage counselling! Anyway, roll on 2nd January and his healthy mum of 71 died having s heart attack very unexpectedly so of course it was a nightmare! He’s an only child so had to deal with everything and his drinking got worse again throughout January, pissed almost nightly (he’s been off work since November). I’ve been there the whole time trying to help him but the funeral wasn’t until the 31st January so it was a long drawn out affair! Anyway, now back to a bit of normality, he’s moving in to live with his elderly father and I keep asking him if he wants to save the marriage or should we divorce? He wants to try again but I’m not sure he’s prepared to do what’s necessary to help move our marriage forward (I.e. stop going to said pub where OW works despite them not speaking to one another, stop contact with anyone there, spend more time with family doing things, be a more hand on Dad which he’s never been) etc! He’s very selfish which he’ll admit, his mum did everything for him and always had, reducing his drinking, reducing his going out, letting me have access to his phone and coming off social media etc! Now obviously I don’t trust him and he knows that and that it was his doing! I’m really unsure whether to give it one last try or just not bother at all? Any advice from someone in a similar situation please? X