To not tell them I'm changing the will?

[bouncyfish]

We have a will to say that in the event of us dying the dc would go to live with my parents and they would be guardians and trustees etc.

We made the will when I was pregnant with dc1 and to be honest I really regret it. I feel pathetic admitting it because I was so controlled by them even then and have always had a weird and fucked up relationship with them both. The penny has only dropped on this in the last couple of years.

I worry about it all the time and have decided to get it changed for my sanity. Do I need to tell them this? In the event of us both dying they'd obviously find out but would they have any legal grounds to still have them?

Can you tell I'm fucking terrified of them!!

Change it and don’t tell them

Your children aren’t possessions you can give away

Who has suggested otherwise?!

Do change your Will but you absolutely have to tell your parents because, God forbid the worst should happen, they would assume they are guardians and maybe swoop in when your DC are at their most vulnerable, and then your PILs might get caught in a legal tug of love and that wouldn't be fair on your DC or your PILs.

No doubt it will be hideous when you tell them but what's a relatively brief explosion compared to peace of mind forever?

Good luck OP