Wedding Invite

[Polly345]

My Dad is getting married in the Summer. Just a small wedding and a 'reception' at his home. He has told me that I have been invited to ceremony but not my son, my partner or my son's partner. His fiancee is inviting her children, but no partners.
I can understand that the partners might not be invited but I can't understand why he would not invite his only grandson. She has grandchildren but they are both under ten.
I know that people can have what they want - but I'm just very sad he has decided not to invite my son.

I think that they have been fair, and it sounds like a VERY small wedding - they really do just want those who are the very closest to them to attend.

I get it to be honest - I love my baby nephew, I love my husband, but I will most likely never again just be with my sister and my parents. This wedding isn't about your father's relationship with ANY of his grandchildren. They clearly just want something super small and intimate, with their children.

I think that's fine.

I think you are more sad that he is probably engendering a closer relationship with his future wife’s gcs than he is with your ds. If you were close, this would be a lot less of an issue. I think you have to accept the situation as it is, however painful.

They have set the parameters and been consistent with both sides. They wbu to invite an adult grandchild and not 9/10 year old dgc.

I agree. Sounds like they had to draw a line somewhere with regards to numbers and that means your son not being invited. You don't have to like it and you can feel sad about it, but at least they are being clear upfront and consistent across both families.

Is the issue the actual wedding or the fact it is a clear signal that he is not close with your son and that makes you sad?