DH and DSS currently have a very strained relationship. Used to have eow access, this tapered off after he refused to come on holiday with us and after that stopping wanting to visit.
DSS has never known his parents together, struggles with the fact that he doesn't have a 'normal family' He blames me for this, in his eyes if I hadn't come along mum and dad would be together. So I have stepped back while he adjusts. We are currently going through the process to gain formal legal access but it's slow. Currently DSS will happily let DH take him out one on one, movies, milkshakes, footie, buy him stuff. But he refused to come to us for a 'normal weekend' as he struggles when all attention isn't on him, or if he gets told what to do bed time, chores etc. AIBU to think DH should put his foot down a bit and try to enforce a bit of usual weekend access not just Disney parenting? Or I am just a wicked SM and he should just do what he wants? I feel like DH is being used as an atm and taxi service, whilst getting northing in return. DSS 12, DH and I married 5, together 10.