To be irritated by people who cant do jobs on their own?

[Folf]

And by that i mean, the other adults in your life. You know the kind. You're sat minding your own business, relaxing, whatever.. and they decide they're going to go do a 'job' that needs doing, and you can guarantee that at some point you will be asked to stop what you are doing to go help them.

Fuck off, seriously. You decided to go do it, get on with it and leave me alone!!!

You've just described my husband!

If he has a 'job' to do I go out for a walk and tell him to call me when he's finished.

DH's trick is to start a job without making sure he has everything he needs sorted out. So it's a constant stream of requests for the hammer, the screwdriver, the nails, the spade etc; or that I plug in the drill and switch it on, or that I switch on the water for the hose. I've tried cross-examining him before he starts on whether he has everything he needs, it still doesn't work. I've been known to find a quick reason to leave the house in the past, even if I'm only sneaking out for a coffee in peace.

My ex would ask the most stupid fracking questions at bed time. There I am, drifting off to sleep, and he pipes up with something utterly inane, like "what's for tea tomorrow?" or something else that could have waited. The above is just an example, I can't actually remember any of the stupid arse questions he used to ask me. Then he'd act all upset when I snapped at him. Because I was tired and nearly asleep and you woke me up!
(I am so fucking glad I'm single now.)

Bravo, Lindy! Keep it up.

Super glad I'm married to someone who says , "I'll sort the kitchen, you do the kids, meet you at the couch in 30, and I'll have a tea for you"
Also, very aware of how lucky I am

It's not luck to not be with or marry an incompetent person who pleads helplessness in order to skive out of lifework.

@Oblomov19
Yes definitely agree with you with the bqq. My husband announces every summer, "I 'll cook dinner today" But all he cooks are bits of meat and I still have to prepare salad, side dishes and meat alternatives as the kids and I don't like the meat. Then he sits down to eat most of the meat and I wash up! He actually thinks he's done me a favour! 😂

BBQs are the worst. Carrying 4000 trays of stuff outside to sit with a face full of smoke and then carry them all back in. Plus eating all the most boring stuff (sausages, burgers) cooked in the worst way. And yes, ending up doing ten times more work than normal.

I do this but I have adhd and struggle to organise stuff so that's why.

DH's trick is to start a job without making sure he has everything he needs sorted out.

This drives me mad, and seems to happen every damn time. But if I ask 'do you have...?' he whinges that I am nagging and treating him like a child and obviously he knows he will need paste to wallpaper. Yet 10 mins later comes the stream of requests for stuff he knew he needed and I was nagging to remind him of but somehow he doesn't have them!

DH's trick is to start a job without making sure he has everything he needs sorted out.

That's what I always do. It's unintentional.

That's what I always do. It's unintentional

I'm trying to decide whether you're apologising on behalf of all these husbands because they can't help it or that they all have ADHD. This isn't a personal attack on you