Asking for advice

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I've had a fairly rubbish few weeks. Four people have died, one in prison.

So my mother's had a major heart attack but has come round. My father died exactly a year ago. She's now got a bowel prolapse and may need surgery. I'm not sure I can take any more. I've googled other things, not much luck. Any ideas? I know this isn't an AIBU but I get the best advice here.

Gosh, that is a lot.

What do you want advice on? Are you coping? Do you have support (practical and emotional)? A partner?

Thank you. A sister who has her own issues. I suppose I want to know whether my mother should have this surgery. I'm terribly scared of something happening. I know this wasn't really the place to post.

No partner but DD is coming home from university which makes me guilty too.

Don't feel guilty. DD will want to be there for her grandma anyway!

As for the surgery, listen to the doctors - they know better than strangers on the internet :)

Massive handhold. I lost my dad around this time two years ago and my mum was on the edge for a while at the same time with sepsis. It's a really hard time, you're going to get through it no matter what.

I'm sure your DD made her own decision to come and support you and her Grandma so don't feel guilty about that.

For the surgery, as Damn says, we can't really advise here, however unlike some of the things that have been out of your hands, you can arm yourself with knowledge about the op which should hopefully help you feel more in control. Does your Mum have support other than you?

It's my sister and me. Mainly me. She has had three partners die. I will speak to the doctor