to tell someone they are selfish

[NutElla5x]

and an old misery for saying that Valentine's day should be banned and replaced with a national singles day,because it makes single people like her feel left out. I am also single. and am pretty sure that the postman won't be struggling up my path, laden down with the weight of all my gifts and cards.But I think for those couples who wish to give/do something to celebrate their love why begrudge them of that? And if you are in a couple but feel it's commercialised crap fine just don't celebrate it, but shut up about it and let others have their bit of happiness. Better to celebrate love than to spread bitterness,pettiness and hate surely?

If you were celebrating love and not spreading bitterness, pettiness and hate, wouldn't you just have both days? One to celebrate couples, the other to celebrate singles?

If you were celebrating love and not spreading bitterness, pettiness and hate, wouldn't you just have both days? One to celebrate couples, the other to celebrate singles?

Hey I celebrate being single every SINGLE day. I bloody love it! In fact all you couples should be jealous of me! grin

Ha! I am!!

Being single can be very painful for some people, the feeling alone, unwanted etc, i can understand completely why some people hate it.
But then i also think its bollocks people need a special commercialised day to show their apparent love for their partners, so can i vote we have neither :P

I get that being single isn't for everybody Almost,and I do feel for those who feel sad and lonely, just not when they think their sadness should mean that those who wish to celebrate their relationship should be made to feel bad about it.I mean some people don't believe in Jesus or, God forbid, are allergic to chocolate,but do those people demand to ban Easter and have a Wester day with marzipan eggs instead hmm?

14th of Feb to me is the date Dd was due. Bloody selfishly off her she turned up 3 weeks early and has never been early since. My wedding anniversary is what we celebrate and we love each other 365 days of the year.

Although we are off to a wedding today.

It sounds like your daughter might have the same birthday as me then Grovee. Lucky you,because we Aquariuses are the best!
Enjoy your wedding.

Most holidays have the ability to hurt people who aren’t in a position to celebrate them. Christmas is painful for those without family, mother’s day is painful for those who can’t have kids or who have lost their mothers etc.

The best solution is to try to behave sensitively to people you know are struggling. And I really like the trend of opening out Valentine’s Day to celebrate non-romantic love too. I give things to my best friends and get things from my parents etc. I think it’s a nice inclusive way of celebrating.

You need to tell her about Galentine's Day which started on the show 'Parks and Rec' but has become a thing in recent years. It was even trending for a while on twitter yesterday.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Galentine%27s_Day

"Galentine's Day" has transcended the television screen and become established in everyday culture. On February 13, Galentine's Day, a nonofficial holiday, is celebrated as a day for "ladies celebrating ladies." Businesses such as Sprinkles Cupcakes, Lyft, Shari's Berries, and Target promoted the holiday on Twitter in 2017, with Target even selling Galentine's Day themed products. Awareness of the holiday spread thanks to social media, with #GalentinesDay trending on Twitter, Instagram, and Tumblr on February 13, 2017, seven years after the original episode aired.[citation needed] In 2019 the Boston Red Cloaks shared a Galentine's Day Celebration of Exceptional Women.

Yes you would be unreasonable.

The best solution is to be kind to people you know are struggling.

I'm happily single, my friend is less so. So today is far harder for her than for me. Kindness takes no effort.

Back when I was a teenager (and almost continuously single), I adored V Day as an opportunity to send a card to whoever was the unfortunate object of my affection at the time. It was a tactic that was to prove 100% ineffective, unfortunately, but I still spent several years trying!

One amazing year when I was about 15 I got a card, postmarked from somewhere I knew NO ONE with a lovely message in handwriting I didn't recognise about how I should always stay as the sweet person I am [I am not sweet]. I treasured that memory for ages!

So I don't see valentines as a 'couples' thing at all. And I think between couples who (presumably) love each other already that it's a ridiculous thing and quite naff. (although, no judgement against anyone wanting to celebrate. It's just not something I'd ever bother about much myself)

I'm single and have been for a long time. I asked someone for a date this weekend but was rejected. I'm finding it hard this year as I'm really lonely and struggling to deal with the unrequited feelings I have for him. I don't begrudge others celebrating though and certainly wouldn't want it banned.

Several people have sent me "funny" pictures with various twists on don't be upset because you're alone on Valentines day, remember you're alone every day of the year. I know they mean well but I'd rather not be reminded of that fact and I haven't found it as funny as they have. I'd rather have a hug than a funny picture that just reinforces the painful feelings I have in my head.

YANBU. My mum died when I was a teenager so mother’s day isn’t the best for me but I wouldn’t want it cancelled! I think it’s lovely others spoiling their mums and besides, that day is now all about me!! (From DH and DC)

It's odd logic. If you banned Valentines day and replaced with a National Singles Day, then surely couples would now feel left out?

How would you even celebrate National Singles Day? And what about people who are single but want to find a relationship? Wouldn't it just make them feel more alone?

I've zero interest in Valentines Day myself, but if other people enjoy it I don't begrudge them their fun.