To be terrified of how the next 6 weeks will pan out?

[Exhaustedmummy1811]

I think I just need a bit of a hand hold really. 4 weeks ago I found out that my baby had no amniotic fluid around her at only 29 weeks. This didnt seem like a huge problem at first. We were closely monitored and everything looked more positive, till last Friday when it dropped dangerously low again. I'm now being told so many different things about what is going to happen, I know I will be admitted to hospital on Monday, I know I will receive steroid shots for the baby's lungs and I know she will be a section as she is breech.
How ever different health providers are saying different things regarding when she will come and her possible outcomes. Some consultants are saying 34 weeks, 36, 37. I have been told to expect she won't feed straight away, could struggle with her body temperature, jaundice and possibly even her breathing. I know she could be in nicu for upto 6 weeks depending how she is. They can't seem to find a reason for the low fluid so have decided to say it's probably my placenta failing which could come away causing serious complications. Just one more thing I didn't want to hear.

On top of all this I have 4 children at home and as Monday gets closer i am finding the idea of being away from them for what could potentially be weeks really hard. I'm getting very emotional and worrying how they will cope with out me and me without them. The hospital is over an hour away so unlikely I will get to see them much and this is really upsetting me. I have tried to fill our last week with lots of mummy time and fun activities but it doesn't feel enough. I Dont really have any close friends either so feeling very alone and very daunted about it all.
Sorry this was so long just needed to get it off my chest

You would have to be a robot not to be freaked out by all that.

"One day at a time" is all I can offer. You will get thru this. 29 weeks is good, I was so afraid you'd say you were like 25 weeks. They caught the problem and there's a lot they can do to reduce the risks.

I have twin sisters who were born at 28 weeks. They are now teenagers who are regular (annoying ). Nobody would guess they were born early. No lasting effects at all. Yes they were in nicu for a while but walked days after their first bday.
It's scary. But the care available gives these tiny babies really good odds in most cases.

I had the same issue in my last pregnancy. They monitored very closely with scans twice a week and fetal monitoring twice a day. The decision on when to deliver was constantly changing - it depended on fluid levels and how baby was doing. We got to 34 weeks. Each week puts baby in a better position so they will try to get you as far as they can unless it reaches the point of better out than in.

I was in hospital for most of it and it went quicker than I thought as they always seem to be coming to monitor, etc. They did let me home here and there to visit in between monitoring sessions on a good day. The first four weeks were spent in the nicu and she battled jaundice and struggled to learn how to feed. I would recommend asking to speak to someone from the nicu and for a tour, if they haven’t already offered. It made such a difference in how prepared I felt.

My little girl is absolutely fine now thanks to the lovely medical people we had caring for us. I know it is frustrating when it is all ifs, buts and maybes but they won’t know what needs to happen until it needs to happen. The monitoring will guide them.

Thank you ladies, it's just a lot to process. Some days I feel OK as I know this is what is best for my baby but others I just feel so lost and scared. I am so worried about my other children and what the outcome of the pregnancy will be. I honestly feel like curling up under my duvet and coming out when's it's all over haha @blondephantom thank you that puts my mind at rest a little and I'm so glad your little one is doing well now