To ask to call me by a nickname in the new job?

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I am starting a new job in a couple of weeks in a very British (I presume) environment, i.e. civil service. I am an EU immigrant with unusual name. In my private life I've chosen to be called by a nickname- similar to my own but a British sounding name, which now my partner and majority of my friends use.
I know that I'll have to stick to my official name in documents etc, but would it be unreasonable to ask my colleagues to call me by my self imposed nickname?

Think of something like Malgorzata - to Maggie (I am not Polish by the way so it is just an example)

Yanb at all u.

Of course not, no one will mind at all!

Of course it’s fine.

Not at all, I hope the new job works out well for you

I wouldn’t see that as any different from Elizabeth being called Liz, Beth etc. I’ve worked with many people who have their ‘proper’ name on ID but known by a nick name or shortened version.

Not at all

It sounds no different to a Samantha being known as Sam etc A short version of your name should be totally acceptable at work.

YANBU. If someone says 'You must be Malgorzata' just respond, 'Yes, I'm known as Maggie'.

And I expect some will be relieved to not have to worry about pronouncing your given name correctly!

No, let them know in advance so they can set your e mail address to the name you want to use too.

It's absolutley fine. Just mention it when you arrive on first day.
"oh hi, Margaret"
"hi, nice to meet you, I go by maggie if thats okay"

Would be absolutely fine to do this, lots of UK born people also do it.

Lots of people do this. Not sure why you would consider that it might be a problem. I'm known by two completely different names.

Good luck with the new job. 😊

Why not? I have quite a long first name that can be shortened several ways (think Pamela, Pammy, Pam). In secondary school i started to introduce myself with my preferred shortening of my name. In work (civil service, by the way) i continued to do so. I've never encountered a problem.

YANBU. I work in the Civil Service and loads of people use nicknames Chris for Christopher, Will for William, Sammy for Sameer...

Agree with pp - let them know and they'll make sure your ID card and email address are all in your chosen name. Civil service are good with this kind of thing.

Thank you that's reassuring.
It's a bit different than simply using common nicknames (Elizabeth to Liz etc)

More like Japanese people choosing their English name equivalents (Satoshi to Sam, again just an example)

I also don't want to be sound pretentious by not wanting to be known by my original name!

To be honest I think it's a bit too late to request the nickname.surname email.
Would it be weird if I sign off with
Nickname Surname
while my email is official name.surname@ ?

I’ve worked with loads of staff from other countries, and a large majority use a British sounding name instead. Some choose to use their full name which is fine too (as long as they understand that people may get the pronunciation wrong a few times first!). But it’s never been a problem, as someone above mentioned their email address will also be their chosen name, or it gets confusing when everyone knows Maggie but can’t find her on the email list, but there’s a Magarli that no one knows).
Good luck in your new job!!

Just drop HR and email and explain you go by X name, is it possible to have this as your email address. You won’t know until you ask!

A new guy where my DH works has asked people to call him by his middle name as that's what he prefers. No one had a problem with that.

It's completely normal. Don't worry about it.

HR will have a process to update email and other systems with name changes, it’ll usually be people changing surnames when they get married or divorced, but should be the same for using your preferred first name. So definitely ask the question!

Very reasonable. I use my initials at work ‘mj’ As there are 3 people at work with my first name (it’s only a small company as well!) unless your nick name was something like ‘big tits’

I work with a girl called Katerina and on her first day she requested to be called Kate. No biggie.

Even if you can't change the email address no one will mind. I had a colleague who only ever got called Jamie but his email was James. People really won't mind just introduce yourself by whatever name you prefer and once enough people know that and call you by it others will copy.