Not really an AIBU but just wondering about peoples experiences of reconnecting with family members after having gone NC. Was it successful? Did your relationship improve? Or are you still NC & do you worry it was the wrong decision?
I went NC with my MIL about 3 years ago. Although it felt like the only option at the time I do sometimes feel sad that it has come to this. Although she was/still is sarcastic, passive aggressive, controlling & self absorbed (all the reasons why I went NC) on reflection maybe we didn't help ourselves as we didn't set boundaries or voice our honest opinions. Instead DH & I would say nothing & just vent between each other which added up to alot of resentment & frustration. Three years on I feel in a much stronger place & feel like reconnecting would be a nice thing to do & although I'm confident things will be different this time as I wont let things slide like I used to I still worry it will be a slippery slope back to her causing me stress & anxiety. DH is supportive of my choices & visits her without me.
It would be helpful to here other people's experiences.
Thankyou in advance