I have posted on here about my marriage before. Iam in an abusive relationship. My DH is a malignant narcissist. Life is very difficult. I will leave one day but can't yet. I have been with him since a teenager. And he wouldn't let me work. He has the career and money. I have only ever been a housewife. My two children 18 and 24 can't stand to be around him but we all tolerate as much as we can till I can leave.
I have started in the last couple of yrs to claw back a life for me and my kids where we can do things without him around. Every event .. Christmas.. bdays..is normally ruined by him so we started to do stuff without him and it keeps me sane.
This obviously involves lies to him..I have gotten good at it and I don't feel bad about it all..we can finally enjoy some little holidays etc.
Recently we went to center parcs for the weekend. He thought I was on a girls weekend for my mum's 70th. This is true about my mum Being there but also there were my extended family.. sister..brother and their families and my children and their partners..it was wonderful. I have been so down and depressed recently and this lifted me and to spend time with the kids not walking on eggshells is priceless
However.. my sister who is fully aware of the situation iam in suddenly announced she was putting pictures of mum's bday on FB. Even though everyone knew not to do this as my DH doesn't know we are all there.
I told her could she just put pics of the girls up including mum..but not the men..as DH thinks it is a girls trip. She then humiliated me in front of everyone saying it's ridiculous and she likes to put all celebration on FB. My mum isn't even on FB! In the end she didn't.but I cried that night about it..lift is difficult enough without feeling like my own sister cares more about FB. I know it's probably because ism so depressed anyway that i just can't shake off the hurt.