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Please help - Bad dream

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HJWT · 13/02/2019 05:04

Just woke up having a panic attack because I had a dream DD died 😭 its been an hour and I cant stop crying!! Iv never experienced anything like it, it was SO real and heartbreaking! Iv just found out that I'm pregnant and if this is hormone related then frigging kill me 😪😪😪

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TitsAndTomatoes · 13/02/2019 05:10

Oh my OP, i hope you're okay.
I hate those dreams. You awake with the emotion so real and its heartbreaking. I had a dream like this once whilst pregnant about my mum and i swear i thought i was going to have a breakdown, my DH started to panic as i couldnt stop crying. I just wanted to call her and make sure she was fine. Its just horrible but its just a dream (damn you pregnancy vivid dreams!)

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HJWT · 13/02/2019 05:12

@TitsAndTomatoes honest to god I feel like my DD is dead but she is perfectly fine she just gave me the cold shoulder when I tried to get in bed with her 😂 thank god my breathing has calmed down but I still keep crying... I wont want to leave her for a week now 😬

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TitsAndTomatoes · 13/02/2019 05:25

Hahah aww bless!
Its those blummin hormones! I remember how incredibly vivid my dreams used to be. Like they were real real. The emotions that come with it are just hard to explain. I remember it taking me hours to calm down and even when i saw my mum (approx 8 hours later) i was still not right.
If you're too awake to sleep now, make yourself a cup of tea or a hot choc, i always find this helps when ive had some bad dreams. A sense of normality (via boiling a kettle of courseGrin).
I hope you're feeling a bit better.

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HJWT · 13/02/2019 05:28

@TitsAndTomatoes thank you! Its nice to know it is normal even if it is so heartbreaking! I think i will make a brew and have a biscuit my blood sugar is probably through the floor 😬😂

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TitsAndTomatoes · 13/02/2019 05:30

Go for it! I may join you. Ive had a very annoying 10 month old wake me and wrestle me for an hour and shes finally asleep...and im not lol

To the kettle and biscuit cupboard we go!x

Tinysarah1985 · 13/02/2019 07:24

I had a dream like this when my daughter was qbout 4 months old. Drempt I couldn’t find her one morning Confused she had fallen down the stairs and was wrapped in the rain cover of her pushchair!
Needless to say i moved the rain cover into the boot of thr car after that.
Really upset me for a about a week

Pk37 · 13/02/2019 07:27

I’ve had lots of dreams like this and they nearly always involve my dd drowning, it’s terrifying.
The raw emotion will fade as the day goes on and then you’ll struggle to remember most of it , I usually do so fingers crossed you’re the same

VampirateQueen · 13/02/2019 08:01

I have dreamt the same before about my DS and my DD. They are horrible and do seem so vivid. I just did what you did, check on them an once I knew they were ok, reminded myself it was just a dream, no matter how distressing. I can still picture the dreams even now and here myself screaming in them.

PentreBachCymraeg · 13/02/2019 08:03

Ditto anout the drowning dream. Dreamt my son had drowned in the bath. He's 13 but in the dream i smashed the bathroom door down. He was as small as a baby in the bath much like a foetus. Was quite horrific/graphic.

PentreBachCymraeg · 13/02/2019 08:04

About*

TheOxymoron · 13/02/2019 09:16

Yes, it happens to me a lot and then as I come round I realise it is true. It’s like a second punch in the gut.

DeathyMcDeathStarFace · 13/02/2019 09:46

When I was newly pregnant with pfb I had a vivid dream a good friend had died. It was so, so real I had trouble not believing it.

Thankfully said friend lived a few doors away from us at the time and she wasn't working that day so I went to knock on her just to make sure she was ok. When I saw her she took one look at me and asked if I was ok! Turned out I looked visibly shaken, ashen and just generally like I'd had news someone close to me had died. Told her about my dream and she told me it is a common thing during pregnancy to have dreams which feel real.

Had 3 more pregnancies since and haven't had such a vivid dream in those, especially thankful as they might have been about my own children after that.

It is very disconcerting/unsettling etc but we have to try and remember that they are just dreams, they are not, in most cases, reality. Dreams can take the form of our worst fears, maybe that's what happened to you.

Take a bit of time for yourself if you can.

Tolleshunt · 13/02/2019 09:51

As pp have said, it is really common to dream about the things we fear the most.

If I were going to get all Freudian on your ass, I would suggest it might relate to as-yet unacknowledged feelings about your daughter being supplanted or pushed aside by the new baby. The dream may have been your mind's way of pushing this to consciousness so you can deal with it.

Either way, it was a horrid experience for you. Hope you're feeling better now.

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