Moving Schools

[Mumto2soontobe3]

Does anyone have any experience on moving a child with asd to another mainstream school.
DH and myself can't decide if we should move our dd6 to another school. We both feel that dds current school isn't meeting her needs. She spends the majority of her day in the schools nurture room and only goes to class for music. We are in Scotland so she doesn't have an EHCP just a care plan and risk assessment.
I want to move schools as soon as possible but DH wants to have another meeting with the school to address our concerns, we had a meeting on the 9th January and nothing has changed since then. Last week I contacted the other school to arrange a viewing, it's tomorrow afternoon but now DH is refusing to go see it. So who is BU me or DH?

No experience sorry, but it sounds as if you feel the current school isn't meeting your daughter's needs. If thus is the caseookung at a move might be a sensible option.
I font see any harm in viewing the other school. You may get a feeling when there that your daughter's needs eould he better met, or alternatively that you don't like the feel of the school.

Can you go to view with dh?

Sorry, that was meant to say can you go without dh.

I could go without him. It's just I would prefer him to be there as I wouldn't move her without his agreement.

I’m in Scotland and my son who has ASD has moved schools twice, the first time was just because we moved house and was pretty straightforward, the second time was because the school couldn’t meet his needs. He didn’t attend school for 10 months as we where looking for SN placement and there was no places. It was definitely the right choice to move him from the school that wasn’t suitable though, didn’t matter how many meetings we had, nothing was working.

He’s now home educated, school just isn’t for him.

Can her needs be met at a mainstream school?
I would go ahead and look at the school, at least you'll have a better idea.
We've had to look at loads of schools for our DS and I usually do the initial visit before DH has to take time of work etc.
Any reason he is refusing to visit before meeting with her current school? Absolutely no harm in going for a look round.

That's the way am feeling @RaspberryRuffless we can have meetings but if things still aren't working it's time to try something new. I feel like the school have given up on teaching her and just give into her constantly. I contacted the council about a place in a SN school but was told there is no spaces as well.

@Needcoffeeimmediatley The school have always said that they are able to cope with her needs. She was in class with minimal support from August till October but her class teacher went on maternity leave and she never adjusted to the new teacher.
He thinks we should just wait and maybe start the new school year at another school. The school she is at is the school that he and his brothers went to and I think that is part of the reason he wants our children to go there. It is also a great school if you don't have additional needs.

It can be so tough for them to adjust (DS has ASD and is 7) so I totally sympathise with the struggle your having.
Is current school now admitting that there is a problem?

DH might be coming to terms with the fact things might not be how he had imagined them to be? It can almost be a bit of a grieving process.

I would go and visit the school, and arrange a meeting with current school. At least then you will have a better idea if other school might be better for DD?
Go without DH for now if he's not up for it, there's always time for a second visit for you both.

Nope the school seem to think there is no problem. They said she has calmed down a lot and isn't hiding as often but she is behind academically. When I asked for extra work we could do to help her catch up they said they would get it organised but despite chasing it up they still haven't given us any. When I went to pick her up last week she was sitting in the office watching YouTube despite the school telling me she wasn't. I have been questioning them about this since before Christmas as dd kept telling me that was all she did.
He is definitely grieving for what he thought life would be like and he is really worrying about dds life as an adult.
I have told him I am going to see the school tomorrow no matter what. We have nothing to lose by seeing it.

Fab, let us know how it goes.
Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Have you tried speaking to the school governors about your concerns? Just the sheer mentioning of it usually sees results for us!

I thought they’d got rid of nurture rooms for this very reason

Just a wee update. We went to see the other school today and DH is very impressed with it. So going to speak to dds school to start transition ASAP. The placing request form has gone in and they are hoping to accept it within the next 2 weeks.

That's great news!

Excellent that DH came round to the idea so quickly.

Hope all goes well with the transition and DD starts getting the education she deserves.