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AIBU?

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To ask you to help me give my head a wobble?

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ImARocketMan · 12/02/2019 21:39

Just feeling a bit overwhelmed. Recently inherited a property which is for sale but the market where I live is slow, it involves a lot of upkeep which is time-consuming but I'm so lucky to have family that helps with this, however I could really use the money from the sale!

Currently living with my parents and feel like I've outgrown being here as I'm 25 but there really is no way I can afford to move out (again the above sale would be very helpful) as my job is low paid considering the pace of the work involved. I've just stepped into a new project which is very stressful but hopefully means I would be in line for a promotion but not for a year, maybe longer. I can't get another job as the job market here is also slow especially for someone with my qualifications - relatively none.

Because of the slim job opportunities I decided last year to start studying part-time, I went to uni years ago but dropped out after year 1 so I have 4 years left of part-time before I have a degree and honestly I'm finding the work doable but draining on top of everything else but I don't want to drop out and feel like a failure again.

Writing it all down it doesn't sound so bad, I know I'm lucky to have an inheritance and family I can stay with and a job especially after looking at some other posts on here. But at the moment it just feels like I spend all day frazzled from staring at a screen at work and then spend all night in my room trying to motivate myself to stare at a screen some more while I study!

I don't even know what I'm looking for with this or what my AIBU is other than maybe to ask you to tell me to get a grip and quit moaning?! Has anyone got any success stories where they were in a similar boat and have now wound up happy and earning a six-figure salary? Blush

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TerfectlyImperfect · 12/02/2019 21:42

Hang on in there! I didn’t get my first ‘proper’ job til I was 30 but, although I don’t earn 6 figures, once I finally got my qualifications my salary tripled in the space of about 5 years.

ImARocketMan · 12/02/2019 21:56

TerfectlyImperfect thanks that's definitely reassuring! I think 6 figures might be ambitious but a girl can dream Grin guess I should go and get my nose back in the books and keep trying!

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AwkwardPaws27 · 12/02/2019 22:20

I've been studying alongside full-time work for nearly 4 years, I'm in my final few months. I doubt I'll ever earn 6 figures, but I've got a place on a graduate scheme to train to be an accountant - so another 4 years of studying alongside work! Grin
My degree is biomed but I don't enjoy the labwork enough to commit to a PhD and the dropout rate is scary.
Buying and selling houses is frustrating, but try not to let it get you down (and get a good solicitor!).
I'd focus on working out your career route after qualifying; grad schemes, work experience, networking, anything you can do to give yourself a headstart.

ImARocketMan · 13/02/2019 07:56

Awkward it's good to know it's doable alongside working and not so horrifyingly terrible that the thought of another 4 years is possible for you! I always fancied being an accountant but never made the grades, my degree will be in business (if I finish it!) so hopefully general enough to widen my horizons.

Thanks for your comments, feeling much more positive about it all this morning!

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AwkwardPaws27 · 13/02/2019 08:43

@Imarocketman you can apply for accountancy graduate schemes with a degree. I've got a place at the Civil Service but there are many schemes available. The CS scheme pays for all your training, starting salary is currently 28k for 2 years, then 32k for 2 years. If you successfully complete the scheme you can apply for a £45k role.

easyandy101 · 13/02/2019 08:46

Does give my head a wobble mean give me a slap?

adviceonthepox · 13/02/2019 09:59

Why don't you just live in the property you've inherited? Surely that would make more financial sense that using the money to buy/rent somewhere else till you are in a better position job wise?

ImARocketMan · 13/02/2019 16:43

@Awkward Oh I see I never knew that before, definitely something to look into!

@easy Oh I guess it does, never thought about it like that I just always thought meant like sort your shit out Confused oops.

@advice sorry should have been more specific, that would solve a lot of my problems but the property is commercial like a shop rather than residential so I can't live in it.

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