To be pissed at dh?

[Ivehadthisnamemostofmylife]

Not sure if I'm being unreasonable or hormonal!!

Currently 38 weeks pregnant and at hopefully last growth scan as baby has been measuring small. I also need for the consultant to sign off today for me to deliver in the MLU and not the ward.

Came out of my scan which lasted longer than usual due to them having a training afternoon (half hour of being pressed with a full bladder....ouch!) to find a missed call from my older daughters school and a message from my husband saying school have called him, what do they want? This message was 15 minutes ago so called him to find out he hasn't actually called them back.

Phoned school to be told my daughter is feeling under the weather (no vomiting but is pale, no appetite, complaining of stomach ache) explained I'm at the hospital for scan and I will call my husband and arrange for him to collect her.

Speak to husband and he pulls a face at having to leave work early (he's a chef but service was over and it was just clean down to do, ball ache for his team I know but surely better than me having to miss clinic?) He asked me to phone school and say he's on his way and I asked him to as waiting to be called in to midwife and if you're not there they move on to the next one and you and up waiting ages.

Called him after seeing midwife and waiting to see consultant ... about an hour later...to find he hasn't spoken to school and is just leaving work so about another 20 minutes away

Am I being unreasonable to be completely pissed off at him??

your being ridiculous. DH is at work, trying to make money and take care of his family. especially as a chef, he cant just leave whenever he wants, they work as a team. lets be real, the child wasn't seriously ill and everything was fine. ok maybe she could of been? but the school would of taken her to the hospital.

lets be real, the child wasn't seriously ill and everything was fine.

Well it’s a good thing he phoned the school to check that... oh wait, he didn’t.

Leaving early sometimes to pick up ill DC is part of the deal when you’re a working parent. It’s a pain in the neck when you’re busy but that’s life. We can’t just say “no, keep them there.”

I don’t think he did anything terrible, just a bit clueless and irritating.
Is your dd excited about the baby? Wanting to come home suggests to me she may be a bit unsettled. (I could be totally wrong)

I would have serious issues with what he did. Even just he first part - asking you what the school wanted. Are you supposed to be telepathic?

He's expecting you to be his secretary because it's women's work. He won't put himself out by calling the school, no - I'vehadthisname can do it. It's clear that in his head his time is more important that yours, and that childcare is your job.

Also, he showed a worrying disregard for his child. He didn't know she wasn't properly ill and miserable at school. Apparently your child comes below him on the priority list too.

lets be real, the child wasn't seriously ill and everything was fine. ok maybe she could of been? but the school would of taken her to the hospital.

You can't be serious with this comment? Ignore the school calling you to collect your ill child because if the child is really that ill, the school will take them to hospital?!

Your DD was fine in the end. If she was seriously ill the school would have sort medical attention.

I've tried to leave worl to collect DD before and been jumped by everyone needing stuff done that I just can't leave.

I also wouldn't ask DH to go when I'm maternity leave and not working. I'd tell the school I had an appointment and would be there as soon as I could.

God forbid the father take some responsibility for his kids. So what if you're on maternity, what if you were ill, he'd have to step up then. OP wasn't available, but she's expected to drop everything to accommodate the poor father who's working so hard to provide for his family. His work probably ends when he leaves work, OP's doesnt.

Fuck off

I'd be furious.