To be annoyed at DH?

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Hi looking for some advice/opinions. My DH hardly ever takes his mobile phone with him when he leaves the house & even when he does it's never charged so end up switching off at some point throughout the day. He sometimes travels about at work so isn't always easy to track down. I don't need to talk or text him everyday but occasionally something will come up & I send a txt only to hear it beep in another room. We have 3 DC 13,9 & 6. I work part time. This has been a constant bicker between us for years but the reason it has annoyed me more today is, I'm a type 1 diabetic & i had a hypo at the supermarket (fine now) I don't have them often & normally it's very well controlled. I got home afterwards to see his mobile sitting in the kitchen. I thought if it had been bad & I needed to go to hospital no one would be able to get a hold of him or it would take them hours. We have just moved to a new area so no friends or family that can do school pick up in an emergency. He puts no importance on mobile phones whatsoever. He has a works phone that again is not always on/with him. So AIBU to be fuming yet again or is it nice in this day in age for someone not to be obsessed with their mobile?

Oh tough one, I mean we all managed in the not too distant past without them so in a way its good he doesn't care about his fun however I totally get your points, it basically means means he can't be there for you or your kids in an emergency

phone not fun!

I don't have my phone with me all the time either but then I don't have a partner with diabetes.

Now is a good time to set up some emergency contacts if you haven't already.

Just have a chat with him when he's home and ask him to keep his phone with after what happened at supermarket.

People survived without mobiles for a long, long time.

However if one of my colleagues didn't bother taking his work phone to work, that would annoy me.

And if he's deliberately doing it so you have to deal with everything, then I can see why you're annoyed, but in that case the phone use is a symptom not the actual problem...

I'd be miffed, especially if you've raise with him you'd like him to keep his phone on him for emergencies.

Yes people used to do ok without them but we don't live that way anymore. It's extremely common for everyone to have a phone on them now so we have become used to getting hold of people when we need to.

How does his work feel about him not even carrying that around.

This morning must have been scary so it's totally understandable that you're cross with him. But surely you can contact him through head office or something if you need to? And surely his work need to contact him too sometimes?

It's tough because if he's always been like this, it will be quite difficult to get him to change what is essentially a long-term habit.

Time to stick notes on the back of the front door, and inside his car saying 'MOBILE PHONE' - yes it is a bit like treating him like a child but not sure what else you can do?

Hope you're feeling better now.

Given your health and the age of your children YANBU. Yes there were times past where we didn't have phones for emergencies, but there were also times when women weren't allowed to vote, change is progress.

lordemsworth I actually had never thought about him doing it deliberately but I'm now wondering if that is the real reason!

My DH works for NHS over a large area. He does have an office & they would know where he was or which clinic he's heading for, although the office is not always manned. If he had just left it could be over an hour & a half before he arrived at his destination & someone passed on a message. He is quite new in his job & as far as I know is getting on well. He did mention a few weeks ago his boss joked he was like an invisible man. I wonder if it was something to do with him being hard to get a hold of!! I think we need to have a chat tonight

We survived before mobile phones. I dont think it is unreasonable for people to not want to be contactable 24/7.

It annoys me when DH expects me to answer my phone immediately, as I don't think I need to be connectable 24/7... BUT I obviously do need to answer my phone when the kids are at nursery/school, as otherwise that would be just expecting him to deal with it all by default.

We maybe didn't used to have mobile phones, but we used to have grandparents/friendly neighbours with landlines living a short walk from the school.

I think you are right to be cross but don't expect too much.

My husband is like this, never ever can he answer the phone first time I call him, takes ages to reply etc. Yes I get it nobody wants to be contacted all the time but what annoys me is that once he is at home the phone is glued in his hand playing some game or other.

My DH is the same, OP. He doesn't place much importance on his mobile and often leaves it at home. I'm sure he's not doing it on purpose - it just isn't at the top of his mind.

It is annoying sometimes when I'm trying to get hold of him, but the up side is that I never have to compete with the phone to get his attention in the evenings, like lots of people do!